By now, I guess it’s no secret I am opening up my own life coaching office. Just like everyone else, life coaches have highs and lows. And being an entrepreneur, those highs and lows seem to come very frequently.
I learned something important, though, this weekend. Everyone has highs and lows. What matters is how you handle the roller coaster of emotion. Because you can control it and succeed, or you can let it control you and really give it license to make you miserable. What I’m talking about here is whether you worry, or get incredibly anxious over what is going on around you.
When you worry, you understand that there is something that may cause you a problem. You gather the facts and make a plan. You may need to rehearse, devise a checklist to use, pack early so you can get to the train station on time. You plan and do everything to be prepared.
Anxiety is a little different. When you’re anxious, you just worry at an exponential and uncontrollable rate. You’re actually afraid of what might happen, and you believe so many things could happen that are rarely believable options. The next thing you know, you can’t do your work, and everything else you wanted to do is taken over and consumed by this anxiety.
Usually, anxiety will go away as the event that started it winds down and it and is over. Unfortunately, some people just transfer their fear to the next concern and the future. They seem to live in an almost constant turmoil.
The secret to breaking the chain, in part, is to work out planning. Take the things you are concerned about and make a plan. If you are afraid that you will say something wrong, practice what to say that would be good. If you feel someone will think less of you, study the things they are interested in or know about. If you are worried about other things, ask yourself how realistic that scenario would be, and take steps to understand and diminish the chances of that happening.
The positive thing is that you are actually in control of yourself, and you have the power to change what is not helping.
Like everything, small steps are best. They can lead to significant improvements when they add up.
Thank you for being with me today. I hope to be with you again tomorrow.
We do a lot of things for many people. The higher we grow, the more we do. If we do our job well, we often find ourselves with more and more people attaching their projects to our time and less time for us to have to ourselves. It is all right to do well for others as long as you take care of #21. I have to ask you today, are you taking care of #21?
Granted, #21 is not at the front of the pack. Usually doesn’t get all the limelight deserved. And can often get lost in the stampede to get things done. Yet, the team would not be a whole one without this valuable player.
When you’re checking your roster of contributors and lineup of required actions, be sure to look out for the little guy. Ensure that even #21 is given a calculated blend of playing time, training time, and time for recuperation. The balance is essential because without the correct balance you will not get your best performance.
Thank you for being here with me and allowing me a little play on words. This blog contains a puzzle, and in solving it, please tell me a little bit more about #21 in the comments section. I’m not sure where everybody is reading this from. I do know where #21 lives. #21 lives within our hearts.
I hope to be with you again soon, in the meantime don’t forget to take care of #21.
Sometimes in our lives, things do not always go as expected. Sometimes we have to accept detours, hardships, and pain. To keep going, we have to find alternatives along the way. The truth you have to understand is that you are more significant than anything trying to block you from your goals.
Sometimes you can use a superhighway to go directly to your final destination. Although, sometimes you have to find your way around obstacles. Yet, you never let those obstacles stop you from getting back on your track or cause you to throw your hands in the air, give up, and walk away.
Sometimes when you’re on the road toward success, you get hit with a deluge of bills or other costs that were not expected. This does not give you permission to quit. You need to take a step back, figure out a better budget that you can stick to, and look for other ways you can do things that are either free or less expensive.
You may not have ever experienced an avalanche of health concerns, yet I assure you they do exist. You don’t want to give up with that avalanche on top of you. You grab the shovel of determination, and you dig yourself out. You talk with the professionals, and you figure out what will keep the problem from slowing you down. You design your plan of what you have to do so this does not slow you down in the future. You take care of yourself, your body and your mind because they’re the only ones you’re getting. And you move on, to get back on that highway to wherever your goals in life take you.
I have seen people in pain. Hurt with migraines, broken bones, traumatic brain injuries, PTSD, and more surgical scars than you can imagine. These people do not quit. They power through the pain and learn new ways to cope because they understand they cannot reach their goals this side of the mountain. To succeed, they have to move over, around or through that pain to reach and achieve their goal.
I have seen this my whole life. What I’ve learned from this is to never bet against anyone. Some of the direst cases will come back to surprise you. They will not quit, and that is what allows them to obtain their goals.
If you hit obstacles on your way to your goals and are not sure of what to do, the answer is easy. Don’t quit… Get the right information and power through.
Take care of yourself and thank you for being with us today. I hope to be with you again tomorrow.
We do not live in a stagnant world. Change is a continuous part of everything that happens. You cannot run away from change, and you cannot hide. The best we can do is to acknowledge new differences and face them without fear.
Change comes in many forms. Our needs and wants will change. The way we share information and learn new things will change. The way we shop will change. The way we are entertained will change. And as we move on, we will find out that we change. I have realized this and begun to hope to change for the better.
We have two ways to handle this. Either we accept the fact that change happens, and we keep up with the changes, or we ignore or fight change in which case we actually find others bypassing us as we strive to keep up. It is better to keep up with change and understand how it will best benefit you, instead of fighting change and finding that you are left out of many of the good things in life.
I am not up on the latest and greatest of everything, although, I do try to stay involved in what is new now, and what will help me both now and in the future. I find this keeps me a little more agile and the mind nimble. Staying involved helps to cut down on the cranky days were nothing moves right not even the brain.
I prefer not to coast along. As you saw on one of my blogs last week, coasting usually represents a downhill movement.
One of the famous sayings related to older people is, ‘Things are changing and none of it for the better.’ As I hit my retirement years I’d like to change the phrase a little:
The question we look at often is why. Why this? Why me? Why now? Yet, many times the why is just superfluous.
If you have a situation going on, something out of the regular routine of your life, the real questions are what and how. What do I do about this? And, how do I do it?
You can spend days and weeks going over the why. As an after action report the why becomes essential because you have a chance to not get in the same problem area again. Until then, you need to improve the situation.
There are two ways to map your path out of any situation. You can start mapping where you are and plan towards where you want to be. Or, you can reach out ahead of yourself and figure out where you want to be, and then map backward to where you are. Here is a sample of each.
This is the situation I am in now (write it out). To get to where I want to go, I have to do A (write out whatever step A is.) Then I have to do B (write out whatever step B is.) And finally, I have to do C, and of course, you write out whatever that is also.
Sometimes, mapping backward is more straightforward. You know where you need to be, so you start by listing that. Then you start working back. Before I can get to my destination, I am must do C, (write out whatever it is you need to do at step C.) Before I can get to step C, I must do step B. Don’t forget to record step B. The action between where I am now and step B looks like it may be too much of a stretch. I better put in a step A. We better record that one also.
These are just Two of the avenues to get to where you want to be. Wherever you are going, Have a good and a safe trip.
Most courses online fail not because they do not have useful information. They fail because you get the course, are wished luck and then find out you are on your own. My course is different because you get a Facebook Group with me and everyone else taking the course. You get my Email, and I will answer within 36 hours. And If you ask, I will give you a call.
I have taught professionally for over 15 years. I have taken classes all my life. I promise you that what aggravated me will not be a thorn in your side.
I understand how scary, frustrating, and expensive a life transition can be. Especially If you aren’t really sure about what you’re doing.
How do I know?
My dad was career Army, and I was career Air Force. Every time we moved, it was a significant change to lifestyle.
I retired from military service, and that was a BIG lifestyle Transition.
I became a Supervisor and trainer in a high-tech contract manufacturing plant, working 12-hour shifts. The lifestyle change came 14 years later when the plant closed and went overseas.
To keep the positions, I had earned in a life of transitions, I went back to school. First, to obtain a Bachelor of Science in Business Management, then a Master of Arts in Adult Education and Training.
So, what makes me think I can help you with Life Transition?
I have been through more transitions than you can imagine during my 60+ Years. Not only that, I’m willing to bet I’ve probably made every mistake that can be made. And, from that, I’ve learned.
I have a new course out which will save you a lot of time, protect you from more grief than you could ever imagine, and help keep you from spending or losing between $10,000 and $75,000.
I have learned how to do Life Transitions right, how to get where you want to be and be doing what you want to be doing and living the lifestyle you want to be living. And how to do it in a sane and orderly fashion.
When we need to make a change in life, some people fall into a rut or a metaphorical hole. A place in our minds that we just cannot get out of. Quite often we just feel stuck there, and unable to get out. Unable to see the path to our next position. Sometimes we find it by luck. Sometimes we never find it, and sometimes we find it because someone came along and saw us in that hole and jumped into it with us. Metaphorically speaking, I am here to help keep you out of any holes, and if necessary to drop into the hole with you. You may look at me like I was crazy. I could hear you say ‘now are both stuck in the hole.’
It is okay, I’ve been there, and I know the way out.
And for those of you not in the hole yet, even better. Having been there, I can now warn people about the holes and help them not to fall into those holes to start with.
If you spent three years moving between two or three jobs as you try to work out a lifestyle transition, you’ll probably lose about $10,000 worth of earnings that you could’ve made by staying with one company and are better if you can get into the right company to start with. This course teaches you how to research and know the good and bad about the company before you apply for a job.
I have many friends who came out of either the military or college and went into something that they thought they wanted to do. To gain the new credentials for the positions, they spent time getting advanced degrees, thousands of hours in some cases going through internships or externships to earn certifications. And after all the time and money spent they learned one escape the inescapable fact, “They hated that job.”
If I you can save a little money along the way that’s a beautiful thing. But that’s not the most important thing I should be doing for you. As silly as it seems, money is a renewable resource. You can always go out somewhere and earn more money. The one thing you cannot gain more of is time. We each have so much time on this earth, and then we’re going to be gone. And the worst part is, we have no clue exactly when our time is going to be up. If I can help you save a little time that’s much more than all the money that I could ever imagine saving you.
Think of what you could do with some extra time to grow in your company, to live the lifestyle you would really like to live, enjoy your family and kids.
I have three wonderful boys. I learned that they don’t stay small forever. They grow, they go to college, then they leave the house. I miss them so does their mom.
To know little about me, I’ve been teaching professionally since 2003. I have taught everything from corporate training, teaching technology at a contract manufacturing high-tech plant, to teaching people how to write their resumes and prepare for the interview and earn their next job. I’ve taught live classes. And I have converted live courses to online courses. And I have developed online courses some of which are for sale today. I am a certified Six Sigma Greenbelt. My Hold a Bachelor of Science in Business Management. I am a member of the Delta Mu Delta business honor society. I earned a Master of Arts in Education Majoring in Adult Education and Training.
My course is like no other. Why? In this course, I am focusing full attention on to your success. I will give you my email and make it possible for us to communicate via Facetime or ZOOM whenever you need to talk to me.
After a very cool overcast day yesterday with temperatures around 50°, today is going to be nice and with warm temperatures back up to 87°.
Every so often it’s nice to have a different day. A little cooler when it’s normally warm out and a little warmer if it usually is chilly out. It just gives us a change of pace.
As complex individuals, it’s beneficial for us to have a change every once in a while. We go on a vacation to rest and regenerate. Maybe we go to the beach or the mountains. Often, we go to places that have different geographic features than the area we usually live in. And almost always we feel happy to come back home again.
Does that make us wishy-washy? No. That makes us complex human beings. Quite often getting away from the place we love allows us to enjoy something different. Because of the break in our routine, we get to rest and enjoy other activities. And, after a short time, we come back to where we call home. Rested because of the break in routine. And, with new insights and appreciations as to why we live where we do, and the benefits we find in our home.
As our summer gets underway, we need to think of our getaway. Whether we look at the beach, the mountains, the big cities, or the streams a few days somewhere else can help to make our lives enriched and happier for the experience.
We’ll talk to you again tomorrow. Until then have a great day.