Movement

In life, we are either growing toward something we want to be or finding ourselves falling away from something we were. We rarely find ourselves at a point of equilibrium where we are neither going up nor down. I wish I could tell you why. I can only tell you this the way it seems to be.

I have a suspicion the way it looks is because of the movement of everyone else around us. People are climbing on their paths and lives, people falling away from where they were, and those lucky few who have found their moment of equilibrium. Even when we’re not in motion, everyone else’s movement around us makes it look as though we are.

We have to remember one essential truth in this world of constant ups and downs, changing directions, and desires to be somewhere or someone else. The only person we have to impress is ourselves.

I know our mind finds itself consumed by what everyone else thinks of us. Yet, they should not be the focus. It goes back to yesterday’s thought on the person in the mirror. You are the one with whom you have to live. You are the one with whom you need to be comfortable.

What have you done to impress yourself today?

Time to Get Up

Have you ever seen that sometimes our lives don’t go the way we think they will? Sometimes our lives look to be scattered pieces just thrown around on the floor, on the furniture, and sometimes on the walls. We all see this from time to time, and that is OK. Because it doesn’t have to stay that way. We can do something about it. After all, we are the only ones able to do so. It is our life.

There is a song dating back to the earlier half of the 20th century that I always remember when I have to do this. It’s called Pick Yourself Up, and the lyrics go:

‘Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again.’

I often find myself picking up in piling various parts of my life. This usually happens when I have tried to do something, and for one reason or another, It fell apart. Even though that is not fun, it does happen. And when it happens, we need to address it.

Have you ever had a journey in your life that fell apart?  If so, what did you do to pick up the pieces and try again?  If not, do you have a game plan that helps you see problems before they happen, and how would you handle issues that do appear?

If you have faced problems like this, sharing will help everyone.  Please feel welcome to use this blog as a platform to share in the comments.  If we work together, we all benefit.

Thank you for being with me today. I hope to be with you again soon.

Try This

Do you know why Mondays are so important? Because if there are no Mondays, we don’t get any Fridays. I know it’s a bad joke, please hang with me though I’m trying to prove something.

When we’re at home every day, we begin to forget which days are which. All the days seem to blend. Without some real care taken, we are unsure if it’s Saturday night or sometime on Wednesday. In these days of streaming and binge-watching, it gets even more problematic.

I have a suggestion I would like to offer to you, though, one that is easy enough to do and hopefully will not drive you up the wall. I promise no yoga in front of the couch and no starvation diet.

Look around and see what bugs your moment. It could be a glass on the counter, a coat not hung up, or it may be that the trash has to go out. Go ahead and take care of that one thing. Wash the glass or at least put it in the dishwasher, or hang up your coat, or take the trash to wherever it should go. When you finish doing the one task, write it down in a notebook or on a piece of paper. Be sure to note what you did and keep it. Feel better? You will.

That’s a go ahead and go on with your day. When you see the next thing that bugs you, take care of that one thing, and write it down. You don’t have to feel guilty, and you don’t have to feel pushed into cleaning absolutely everything in sight. Do what bugs you, and that problem is gone. At least for now.

The fact that you write down the things you do, as minor as they might be, is a reminder that you are taking care of business. You have done something to make the overall decore one thing better. When you do the second thing, please write it down. You now have two things better. You could astonish yourself with how much you have done by the end of the week.

Will this work every week? Does it work all the time? I am not sure. You will have to try it and see.

Thanks for being with me today. I hope to be with you again soon.

New Group Sessions

Today, I scheduled my first Meetup group session. My Meetup group sessions, called “Getting Jobs and Not Being Overlooked.” The group sessions help individuals who are looking for work and, unfortunately, feel they are being overlooked for the jobs they want. And, no, I do not think they are paranoid. It actually happens every day.

There are many things that employers worry about when they hire somebody, especially somebody who is a little longer in the tooth. And according to statistics, employers are correct to worry about it. However, you are a person and not just a set of statistics. As long as you can show you are a viable person able to do the job, you can have as good a chance as anyone else.

The first meeting is next Tuesday, the 19th of January, at 2:30 MST on zoom. We will discuss tactics and techniques for getting jobs in detail. The how to’s of present the right ‘front and center’ attitude at the interview. You will help the employer know that you are not the dawdling old-timer. Instead, you are the sharp, mature worker they are actually looking to hire.

These group sessions will run every Tuesday from 2:30 p.m. to 4 p.m. MST and are free for at least the first four sessions that a person attends. The regular price is $25, yet for the rest of this year, because of the problems with COVID-19 and finding work, I will hold the cost down to only $10 per visit. Please sign up through “Getting Jobs and Not Being Overlooked.” On Meetup

Please ask, If you have any questions, by writing to mikebalof@reveille.rocks.  Also, feel free to ask me through Meetup. I would be glad to help you better understand any particular concerns. If you know anyone else who could benefit from such a group session, please let them know that we are out there and willing to work with them.

Thank you for being with me today. I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

Have You Started

We are six days into the new year. Are you working on the new you? Are you finding ways to make your life more productive, happier, or more meaningful to you? If you are working on it, great. If not, I hope it’s because you already have everything you need and everything you have ever desired. If you are delighted and want for nothing, you should not change. You live the life that the rest of us genuinely envy.

If you were not quite that fortunate, then I have to ask a question. What do you find missing from your life? If you’re not as portrayed in the paragraph above, obviously, something is missing. At this point, there seem to be two choices. One is just sitting there and pouting, blame everybody else, and just be miserable. The other option is to get out there and do something about it. So the question stands.  If you don’t have everything you want, why not, and what do you do about it.

I’m not trying to push everybody into a greed fest. I’m just asking a question. If you want something you don’t have, is it because you really don’t need it or care about it, or is it that you’re just not trying hard enough?

Often, it boils down to priorities. With so many things we could have within the world, we have to choose what is most important at the moment. And that is a sage thing to do. And if that’s what you have to do and where you are, it is absolutely OK.

On the other hand, if your lack of something is caused by your ‘get up and go’ having ‘got up and went.’ That is another matter. Suppose you’re not getting what you want out of life because you find yourself stuck in a rut and just not able to actively pursue your needs. In that case, you are at the point you need to find yourself a new direction and some energy to follow it.

If you find yourself stuck, without the energy, or unable to find the right direction, I am here for you. Starting on Tuesday, 19 January, at 3 p.m. Mountain standard time, I will be hosting a group session for people to share where they are. Also, where they want to go and ask for sharing ideas and ways to get there.

For anybody who wants to join, I will make the first month free. After the first month, the fee goes to $10 a week. When my website publishes in the next week or so, you will also find discount coupons for other assistance which I offer.

Please keep an eye out for this blog, and I will keep you informed on what is going on within Reveille.Rocks, and hopefully, you will find some items which will be of great use for you.

Thank you for being with me today. I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

It Is New, Now What?

Welcome to day five of our new year. And congratulations on making it here. Now the question is, what are you going to do?

I’m not talking about the facade of goals, which will be gone in a few months. I am not worried about what you want to be 10 years from now. What I’m asking is, now that you are in the new year and the year you hate is now behind you, what are you going to do.

I grant everyone the fact that last year was horrible. The year was one problem after another building to one calamity after another. But you have made it through, and here you are. You own a new year, a new day, and hopefully a better way.

Yes, I know the date on the calendar did not change the status of things on the ground. That is not the point, though. The fact is you drew a line in the sand to get a new year. Now you have it. If you do nothing to make this year better, you just have what you had before. If you do better in your life and your situations, you will have better outcomes.

Does this mean hard work? When did getting what you wanted out of life not mean hard work, planning, and a fair share of elbow grease and midnight oil? The nice thing is whether you know it or not, you can do this. Can I do it for you? No. Can your parents or kids do it for you? Absolutely not. Every time you look at a smiling CEO, a farm doing well, or a plumber happily doing the job, you see people doing the things they love. They are there because they took the time to learn and grow within their careers and professions. 

You have come this far. Do not give up on yourself now. You are in a new year, and you are closer to the cusp of getting what you want than you were a year ago. It’s time to forge forward, not backslide.

I tell you these things for the good of all of us. When someone succeeds, we all raise just a little; and when we fail to try, everyone else sinks just a bit. It’s not that I’m worried about everyone being let down. I just don’t want you to be back here a year from now asking the same questions about what happened.

Thank you for being with me today. I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

Time To Do It

In 2 weeks, I will start giving free training to those who wish to learn.  The training is on a variety of subjects around staying safe and finding new employment during COVID. 

Gaining a job has happened numerous times using these methods. What I am teaching is not new.  I am just giving you a technique to move forward when everyone else is sitting on stop. And the neat thing is that yes, you can do this.

I am no hero in this endeavor.  I am only a guide to show you the way.  If you want the hero, you have to go and look in the mirror.  Heroes are those willing to go on the quest.  I can only show you the way.

For now, you hold one question for the person in the mirror. “If many others can do this, what makes me think I can’t? I am as smart as anyone else.  And what I don’t know, I can learn.”

Think about it.  I will put the training in as many social media places as possible.  I will also have a way for you to contact me with questions. If you feel nothing is worth something unless you pay, a donation is appreciated, yet never necessary.

Sure You Can

When your whole world feels upended, what do you do?  You learn to walk on the walls.  If the world turns upside down, you live on the ceiling.  You are a smart and agile person who can meet and overcome any out of the norm encounter.

This year, it is hard to understand what the norm is.  And that is all right.  Unless you are from a culture indigenous to your country, Someone in your heritage must have moved to where you are. They would have to learn new skills and new ways and become part of the new community.

No one could talk about being owed anything or being entitled. Each person worked for what they received and had no guarantees for how much the wages for work would help.  Yet your for-bearers survived and thrived.

We have come so far as a planet and as people of the earth.  You can do more and go farther than anyone before you.  All you need do is apply yourself. 

I am here to help.  I am a career coach specializing in people who find themselves continually overlooked for gainful employment.  And yes, I can help you.  Want a free book on the subject?  Please send me your email and ask for the book.  I will send you a copy for free.

mikeb@reveille.rocks

Always A Way

One thing I believe is if you want to do something, there is usually a way. We know that there will always be blockades. And, sometimes, from a distance, they look like the Himalayas. Yet when we get closer, they seem to diminish in size; and when you are standing right next to them and start to move over them, they may be nothing more than molehills.

We often have a problem where we look at something far off and determine it is just too hard to accomplish. And then, something that could be good for a lot of people does not get done. You are also stuck. You did not get to move forward because of a thought.  You thought a major Problem (the mountain) stood in your way. A prime lesson in life is not to talk yourself out of what you desire most to do in life.

Believe it or not, you have people around you who care. Everybody does. And these excellent and caring people do not want you to suffer or face bad results, therefore, they will do their best to talk you out of things they do not believe are in your interest. Your job is to find out what your desires are and to keep moving towards them. Do not think ill of others; they are only looking at you through their beliefs and desires. You must look at the world through your own.

Can I guarantee you there are no barriers, big or small, in the way of wherever you want to go?  Of course not. You can make that determination when you are there. You can also find a guide or two to show you the trails and how to get to your goal. Can I tell you exactly how to get to your destination? I do not think so. Unless you are walking where I have been, that would be hard. I can help you with the tools you will need. And, I can tell you this, often things are not as difficult as perceived once you get to work on them.

Thank you for being with me today. I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

Helping With Pain Points

A pain point can be anything, physical or thought, that takes time from us and causes us great feeling and emotion. When we work with others, sometimes we will realize they have a pain point that is just like one we have. It could be anything in which we both strongly believe. We could be either in sync or 180 degrees out, or any of the other 360 degrees of the compass.

When two people have the same pain point in the room, we must work to ensure we do not make the conversation about ourselves. We should be sensitive to the other person and their needs, especially if the other person has come to see us for help.  Focus on their concerns, and maybe, you will learn something that will help you solve your worry.

As humans, we all have things that bother us. No matter how minor or major the concern might be, there is a pain point that will not rest until found and handled. Discovering it is done with Socratic questioning and discussion. The idea is to have the person with the problem uncover the pain point so they can understand and deal with it.

Often the pain point is an emotional issue that is being frustrated by events the owner has no control over.  Helping someone find the pain point is the hard part.  Once found, they can often deal with the concern, and the frustrated blockage can be understood and handled.  Just remember, if you are there to help, do so, no need to make a meeting about you.

 Thank you for being with me today. I hope to be with you again tomorrow.