Buried Alive

Today it seems as though we are being inundated with mail and email we never asked to have.  As Christmas neared, I found myself apologizing to the mailman once again and offering to kick in a few bucks for his back surgery.  I do not know where all the catalogs come from or how they found our names and address, all I know is that the sales magazines came in at a rate of up to 27 a day.

I would like to think it was a mass mailing, yet somehow I have the feeling we were being targeted.  To top that, the spam is even worse.  I can find over 100 spam emails on my computer every day.  I would keep them to show how popular I am, only it makes it difficult for me to see the one or two emails I receive from my clients and friends.

I cannot block email for everyone because I am looking for new clients to use my email to contact me.  And no, I do not have any outgoing blanket email adds right now because of all the trouble I see them causing.  I would prefer to build my business one person at a time.  I think that life coaching is better that way.

I know that there will be a solution with all of the spam we get, and at some future point, it will fade away.  The only downside to its demise is the fear of what might replace it. Then again, 65% of what we worry about never comes to happen.  So, why waste time worrying.  We need to concentrate on that which brings us and those we love some joy.

Thank you for being with me today.  I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

Is it Me or Not

Ever have one of those days?  The kind where everyone else is just wrong, and they are all conspiring to get on your nerves.  You are to the point that you feel you just need to get up and leave the room.  Well, maybe, you should.

You need to get out of the room and find a mirror.  Take an honest look at yourself.  And you need to figure out the answers to some questions.  The important thing here is only doing this if you can be honest with yourself.

First, when everyone seems to be bothering you, is it on a particular point, or is everything coming at you not sitting well today?  If everything is off, you have some more mirror time. The odds of everyone trying to bother you with different work, problems, or expectations are rare.

Is there anything that has happened to you lately that would cause you to be on edge?  Has something from the past come back to the forefront.  Is the rest of your life in balance right now?

I am not picking on you.  You do need, though, to understand if there is a problem, is it based on what others are sending, or what you are receiving.  If it is them, you can speak to them and nicely figure out what the concerns are and how to fix them.  If it turns out you are on edge, then maybe you need a time out.

We do not stand in the corner with grown-up time outs.  You should get out and walk for 20 minutes.  Find a vista, and enjoy it a little while.  Or, do something else that releases the mind and the tension and allows you an opportunity to reset yourself a little closer to normal.

You should never look at this type of exercise as ‘who is to blame.’  It is more of how ‘we’ get back to normal.  As long as someone is on edge, normal cannot freely exist.  When we take the edge off, normal can return.

Thank you for being with me today.  I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

Stick to Your Path

There are many things that a smart person with a little drive and ambition can accomplish.  The question starts to become, should I do this or that?  Some jobs are actually above our skill sets, and some are so far below that they are a waste of our time.

Yes, we can all probably be a greeter at a big box store. Yet if we take a job with no challenge, we end up bored, complacent, and either quitting or being let go. If we feel we should be the manager or supervisor, and we have never built the needed skillset within ourselves, we will drown in our own lack of knowledge and end up being fired for lack of ability.

When looking for a job, be open and adaptable.  Know that you may have to take a position with skills you usually do not use.  Also, know if you stray too far from your actual ability and work experience, you may actually do yourself more harm than good.

How do you avoid the pitfalls of gaining the wrong job?  Study the situation and what the employer wants.  Use a pro and con chart to figure out if the work is right for you.  Also, look at the tasks involved with the position, especially the soft skills that the posting can often overlook.

If the job you need is not available exactly when you need it, taking a lower position to keep bills paid and bread on the table is understandable.  Just remember that it is a short step to your new placement and not an end within itself.   Never give up looking for your correct position on your path of life.

Thank you for being with me today.  I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

A New Era and Venue

In my life, I have worked on the theatrical stage.  I was in the Air Force, I was a counselor at a cemetery, built computers and servers, and taught others to use a computer and find jobs.  Along the way, I wrote some books and some courses on how to find and pursue your future.  I am happy to say that my next adventure is finally underway.

I have studied for over three years and become a life coach. It is my goal to work with those who have found themselves in a rut and need some help getting out. I have also come to understand that with the aggregated collection of data going on today, I will be a continuous learner for the rest of my life.  I think that is good.  At least we are all learning, and hopefully, the knowledge gained will help everyone to live better.

I would not even attempt this undertaking if I did not think I could help others to find more happiness and understanding in their lives.  I cannot guarantee results, and 100% of the processes do not aid 100% of the people. Yet, I am willing to work with who I can and help them to find their full potential.

Many people ask why a life coach does not just tell you what to do.  We cannot do that because the answer is not in us.  The actions live within you. The only thing a life coach can do is ask questions that help you to consider and better understand yourself.  When everything works correctly, you should be able to better understand yourself and make the right decisions for you. 

I wanted to tell you that I am here, and if I can help you, I would be glad to do so.  I can work via Zoom to most areas in the world and even use video and audio so we can see and talk to each other live.  Most readers may not need my services.  If you are interested, you can go to my website and sign up via the coaching page.  If you have any trouble contacting the web site, please write to me at mikeb@reveille.rocks.

Thank you for being with me today.  I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

Do What Makes You Feel Good

I often wonder what is happening to me when I get home at the end of a workday.  I know I need to clean the house, make dinner, and do odd jobs such as laundry and vacuuming.  I am not complaining, yet I seem to fall off my schedule and instead want to sit and watch TV (the news is always so exciting lately.) 

I am lucky, though.  I have had a chance to open a small business that will never make me wealthy, yet it gives me a chance to not fade off to nothing.  Many people retire and go home to sit on the porch.  These people are the ones that do not live very long. 

I had a small taste of that as I retired. Being around the house all day without a schedule to keep me busy led to some fogginess of the brain.  I started by not being able to say the word I wanted to use.  I just could not think of it.  The days of the week were slipping away.  I didn’t have to be anywhere on a particular day and did not feel like doing much.

When I realized what was going on, I set up a plan for a business.  Even though I am a one-man shop, I work in a coworking center with many bright and active people.  I find my words coming back, my energy level up, and my calendar is full and remembered.

I feel that I am like the old retired chief master sergeant I knew many years ago.  He had a small one-person electronics repair shop.  When he wanted to work, he worked.  When he desired to go fishing, he just hung a sign in the window and went.  He, and I, seem to have the best of both worlds.

Thank you for being with me today.  I hope to be with you again soon.

Working Out the Kinks

We all have times when something starts to hurt or fail to work.  Maybe the coffee pot goes on the fritz and does not put out enough coffee at a warm enough temperature.  It could be the car that is making a rattling sound every time you turn a corner. Possibly it is the back and abs that hurt after a fitful night’s unrest in bed. Whatever it is, you have two choices: accept it as the way things are or get curious and start asking questions until you understand enough to do something about it.

I lead with acceptance because that is where most people start.  Annoyance and acceptance.  Everything is just getting older.  Give it more time to warm up.  You just have to accept you are not a spring chicken.  It starts to sound like you are just giving up. 

After you work your way through the thorns and excuses, many will turn to option two and start to ask questions.  How long have we had this machine? Exactly what is making that sound, and will it fall off in traffic?  Why am I hurting, and can it be cured?  Now you are looking at fixes rather than mere acceptance.

I would recommend that we should all (yes, I am as guilty as the next person) swap the two choices. Get inquisitive first and hold off on acceptance as a very last resort.  We are going to end up curious anyway, and finding things out sooner than later can save money and frustration.  If a fix is possible, getting it done early-on will keep the problems from deteriorating further and costing more.  If the item has failed, go find a sale or get something that really makes you happy.

When these types of problems come along, and they usually will at some point, you can be complacent and miserable, or you can reach out and take action.  The latter will generally make you feel better.

Thank you for being with me today.  I hope to be with you again tomorrow.