Facing the Future

I am the last person who should preach on forward thinking. I always seem to find myself dwelling in the past, grumbling about what I “could, or would, or should have done.”  And after many decades of doing this, I can give you one true statement about it. All of the looking back in the world won’t change what happened in the past.

Having said this, I also have to say there is a sense of understanding in knowing your past. Using the past as a learning platform allows us to better understand new things as we look towards and move into the future. And, since we are people in motion, whether we want to be or not, we need to be looking in the direction we are going. No one is going back towards 1950, or 1940.

How many people do you spot each day walking backward, not looking where they’re going, just concentrating on where they have been? Does anybody here drive by putting the car in reverse and watching the rearview mirror? It is not feasible to move in a direction and not look at where you’re going.

The main problem with going into the future is that you don’t really know what’s going to happen there. You know what happened in the past, and therefore the past feels safer, not just to you, everyone feels that way. Yet, to make any journey meaningful, you have to know where you’re going, and what is happening around you.

Even if we don’t know exactly what lies around the bend, we can set some goals. And as soon as we know what we would like, we can develop a map to get from where we are, to our desired destination. Does that mean our goals are now guaranteed? No. It gives you a tool so you can see what you want to do, and the path to get there. If you can’t view where your goal is, how can you get there? If you can see the way to where you want to be, doesn’t that make the trip easier?

Have a great day. My goal is to send you another blog tomorrow.



Getting to Where You Need to Be

The question we look at often is why. Why this? Why me? Why now? Yet, many times the why is just superfluous.

If you have a situation going on, something out of the regular routine of your life, the real questions are what and how. What do I do about this? And, how do I do it?

You can spend days and weeks going over the why. As an after action report the why becomes essential because you have a chance to not get in the same problem area again. Until then, you need to improve the situation.

There are two ways to map your path out of any situation. You can start mapping where you are and plan towards where you want to be. Or, you can reach out ahead of yourself and figure out where you want to be, and then map backward to where you are. Here is a sample of each.

Mapping Forward

This is the situation I am in now (write it out). To get to where I want to go, I have to do A (write out whatever step A is.) Then I have to do B (write out whatever step B is.) And finally, I have to do C, and of course, you write out whatever that is also.

map a
map a


Mapping Backwards

Sometimes, mapping backward is more straightforward. You know where you need to be, so you start by listing that. Then you start working back. Before I can get to my destination, I am must do C, (write out whatever it is you need to do at step C.) Before I can get to step C, I must do step B. Don’t forget to record step B. The action between where I am now and step B looks like it may be too much of a stretch. I better put in a step A. We better record that one also.


map B

These are just Two of the avenues to get to where you want to be.  Wherever you are going, Have a good and a safe trip.