The question we look at often is why. Why this? Why me? Why now? Yet, many times the why is just superfluous.
If you have a situation going on, something out of the regular routine of your life, the real questions are what and how. What do I do about this? And, how do I do it?
You can spend days and weeks going over the why. As an after action report the why becomes essential because you have a chance to not get in the same problem area again. Until then, you need to improve the situation.
There are two ways to map your path out of any situation. You can start mapping where you are and plan towards where you want to be. Or, you can reach out ahead of yourself and figure out where you want to be, and then map backward to where you are. Here is a sample of each.
This is the situation I am in now (write it out). To get to where I want to go, I have to do A (write out whatever step A is.) Then I have to do B (write out whatever step B is.) And finally, I have to do C, and of course, you write out whatever that is also.
Sometimes, mapping backward is more straightforward. You know where you need to be, so you start by listing that. Then you start working back. Before I can get to my destination, I am must do C, (write out whatever it is you need to do at step C.) Before I can get to step C, I must do step B. Don’t forget to record step B. The action between where I am now and step B looks like it may be too much of a stretch. I better put in a step A. We better record that one also.
These are just Two of the avenues to get to where you want to be. Wherever you are going, Have a good and a safe trip.
I’m a life coach. Although formally being a life coach is something new to me, it is something I’ve done most of my life. I did this as a team chief in the Air Force, a supervisor and a trainer at a high-tech contract manufacturing plant, and helping people to prepare for interviews and write resumes to gain new employment. I have spent a lot of time as the coach, helping people to see their way to their own victories.
Life stage transition sometimes sounds like a big thing. It can seem like, “Oh my goodness! I am going to change and never come back to where I was.” The truth of the matter is we’re continually changing. As we grow and we learn more, or our circumstances change, or our needs change we find ourselves in the state of transition. Some transitions we can know about and plan for and some transitions we do not always see coming at us. And yet, transitions are a thing that we do have to face.
I am releasing a new course on life stage transition soon. It is a course designed, not to scare you, it is intended to help you understand, face things head on, and in doing so not spend extra time or money, you do not have to overspend to get what you really want out of the transition. Keep an eye on this blog, and I will gladly keep you in the loop as to when the course opens up, and how you can take the course.
I look forward to talking with you again tomorrow. Tomorrow I will show you some exciting new video from our course.