I hope you’re enjoying your holiday season. I hope the season has been kind to you. I personally know how holiday seasons can put anyone at odds with themselves. We are made to feel we need to do more than we can, spend more than we are able, and often extend ourselves to the point of breaking. And yet, it does not have to be and should not be that way.
I have promised myself this year to change my ways. Rather than spending a lot of money, I have tried to add something which I have spent time designing or making. It was not the big thing that I did this year, yet it said something personal that I had made with the belief that the person I was giving it to would enjoy it. Is it working out? I do not know. I still have some homemade gifts which I am still working to complete. These gifts will probably have to be delivered by the three wise men.
What did you give yourself this year? We often give to everyone else, and usually, do not consider anything for ourselves. I have broken with my usual tradition by giving myself a wonderful gift. Some people may feel that it is cheap, or flimsy, or made up. I believe that my present will turn out to be one of the best things I have ever received. My Christmas present to myself is a better me.
No one can give a present like that and just walk away. Much work is involved in making a gift like this valuable. First, I have to give myself permission to be genuine, to be me. That means rather than trying to be different things to other people, I am first true to myself and my beliefs. Therefore, the first question I ask when starting action is, “Is this who I am?”
The next questions I ask whenever I consider an action or a change is,” How will this help myself and others to be better?” And I also ask, “ Whom will these actions help or harm?” I believe that these are excellent questions to consider as we get ready to make changes in operations or directions.
There are some more questions I ask, and some more actions that I have to take before deciding. You may want to ask if this slows me down? How much more time does this add to my day? Does this make me feel better, or just send me on a constant guilt trip? I can’t tell you the answers yet. I just received this present, and I will have to work with it and report back to you.
I will report back to you from time to time. If you work with or intend on trying something like this, please let us know how you are doing with your present. And if you are attempting something like this, please don’t be too hard on yourself. After all, we are only human.
Thanks for being with me today. I hope to be with you again soon.
It feels like this may be the last hot day of the season. Coolness starts to come back tomorrow along with the possibility of rainstorms in and out for the rest of the week. More and more our weather puts us into not one season or another, instead, into a state of transition.
No matter how much we strive to find a permanent place, whether it is work, home life, or even the climate, more and more we find ourselves in a state of transition. We often fight transition wanting to stay where we are, doing what we know, and living the life we have. Believe it or not, we actually want to stay where we are, whether we like it or not.
The trick is to embrace transition when it comes. We want to get out in front of the change. Why? Because failing to do so puts us at the whims of the winds of fate. We can either enter transition not knowing where we will end up and having to live with the consequences or when change is upon us we can plan and research and act in a method which will help us to end up where we want to be. The choice is ours.
When I was 42, and just out of the Air Force, I actually built a layoff business plan. My dad was Army, I was Air Force, and I really didn’t understand how the civilian world worked regarding employment. I did know, to find a job I wanted, I had to go out and find one.
Although the factory I worked at did not close for 14 more years, the fact I had written that plan, served me well when needed. The fact that my family and I made it through those times and grew better because of them, I believe, proves that with a little fore-thought, guidance from above, and faith, transitions are not to be feared.
Transitions merely keep us excited about what is to come next. Change can be large or small, or better or worse. More than anything else change is what you make it.
We do not live in a stagnant world. Change is a continuous part of everything that happens. You cannot run away from change, and you cannot hide. The best we can do is to acknowledge new differences and face them without fear.
Change comes in many forms. Our needs and wants will change. The way we share information and learn new things will change. The way we shop will change. The way we are entertained will change. And as we move on, we will find out that we change. I have realized this and begun to hope to change for the better.
We have two ways to handle this. Either we accept the fact that change happens, and we keep up with the changes, or we ignore or fight change in which case we actually find others bypassing us as we strive to keep up. It is better to keep up with change and understand how it will best benefit you, instead of fighting change and finding that you are left out of many of the good things in life.
I am not up on the latest and greatest of everything, although, I do try to stay involved in what is new now, and what will help me both now and in the future. I find this keeps me a little more agile and the mind nimble. Staying involved helps to cut down on the cranky days were nothing moves right not even the brain.
I prefer not to coast along. As you saw on one of my blogs last week, coasting usually represents a downhill movement.
One of the famous sayings related to older people is, ‘Things are changing and none of it for the better.’ As I hit my retirement years I’d like to change the phrase a little:
Technology is a great tool. The use of the computer today allows us to pay our bills, text and get immediate responses, buy things, sell things, share thoughts and even talk to someone face-to-face with a visual chat. Are there some problems that could be made better? Sure. And yet think of how much better this mode of communication is compared with others in the past.
Think of the sailors who used to go to see for years at a time, and their families and loved ones would not know where they were, what they were up to, or even if the wayfarer was alive or dead. Then think of the colonists coming to the new world and building from scratch an entirely new way of life.
At least the colonists in the new world had ships going back and forth to England, and they were able to send letters on the boats. They could send a message and get a reply back in probably three or four months. This was a vast improvement over what had gone on before. At least they got the letter replying back if one of the two ships going back and forth didn’t sink, or the cargo did not get washed overboard.
The other concern with sending letters back and forth across the Atlantic would be whether or not the receiver had been trained in the technology. Not everyone at that time could read. Most people could not sign their own name. The old joke about putting your ‘X’ here was an absolute mainstay of contract signing back then.
We are better educated today. And yet, many do not understand the fundamental technologies of communication today. I do know people who, rather than learning a new technology that could open up their world to many new experiences, actually pack up the computer and put it on the shelf in the closet. They did not understand it, and rather than learning, they just gave up.
Those who give up on technology feel they don’t need it. Many never had the technology when young, and therefore don’t feel the technology is required now. And as these folks go through life, they can be pleased and comfortable, and never realize they are actually just an island, stagnant in a stream of everything that goes on around them. They never see anything other than their little island, because without this technology they never knew what else was out there.
If you live as part of an extended community which makes a choice to limit technology, such as the Amish, you do not miss out as much. Because everyone in the covenant works at the same technological level. The loss of information and lack of gaining knowledge happens in the broader culture where various individuals use various levels of technology and do not get to see the knowledge presented at some of the other levels.
What did they miss out on? Family pictures, live video chatting, purchasing without ever leaving the comfort of your home, gaining knowledge on anything you want to know about, sharing with others, expression, and many other things.
As a community, we can help those who wish to learn newer technologies to do so. If you know someone who needs technical help, lend a hand. If you need a little help, check community centers and other places where people share knowledge. Many centers may have free or nearly free classes.
I love the summer months. Crisp mornings, warm afternoons, and then everything cools off for the evening again. It is a change from the winds of autumn and the snow in the winter. Changes more than just enjoying the season, change and variety are essential to our growth.
If we don’t try other things, how do we know if we like them or not? At the same time, if we only do what we’ve always done, doesn’t that put us in a rut? And think of the exciting ways we can grow as we learn new things. Places, people, sites, and activities, there are new adventures around every corner.
I am not saying that everybody should go out bungee jumping or go over a waterfall in a barrel or things that you are inherently scared of or afraid to do. I am just saying to try something. Maybe something small, and just take small steps first. Until you can figure out if it’s worth exploring further.
Imagine if Christopher Columbus had not sailed in 1492 because he just didn’t know what was out there. What would’ve happened if the Wright brothers did not try something that had never been done before? Where would we be if Ford, who had gone bankrupt three times, failed to build the car on the assembly line?
Are there risks? Maybe. Is there work involved? There is exertion any time you move anything from a standstill into motion in a desired direction. Some people call it work, and some people call it passion.
Again, start with something you think you might like, and try it. If you like it, do a little more. If you do not like it, you’re not that deep into it, and you can stop any time you want. That’s because you’re the person in charge.
I think you’ll be astounded at the amazing possibilities. You could meet new people. You could find new friends. You could discover skills you never thought you had. You could see a passion you never knew existed. And for some, you may even find happiness.
Think about small steps, because small steps can lead in a new direction. A new direction can show change. And sometimes change shows wonder.
Please enjoy your day, and hopefully, we will get together again tomorrow.
Most courses online fail not because they do not have useful information. They fail because you get the course, are wished luck and then find out you are on your own. My course is different because you get a Facebook Group with me and everyone else taking the course. You get my Email, and I will answer within 36 hours. And If you ask, I will give you a call.
I have taught professionally for over 15 years. I have taken classes all my life. I promise you that what aggravated me will not be a thorn in your side.
I understand how scary, frustrating, and expensive a life transition can be. Especially If you aren’t really sure about what you’re doing.
How do I know?
My dad was career Army, and I was career Air Force. Every time we moved, it was a significant change to lifestyle.
I retired from military service, and that was a BIG lifestyle Transition.
I became a Supervisor and trainer in a high-tech contract manufacturing plant, working 12-hour shifts. The lifestyle change came 14 years later when the plant closed and went overseas.
To keep the positions, I had earned in a life of transitions, I went back to school. First, to obtain a Bachelor of Science in Business Management, then a Master of Arts in Adult Education and Training.
So, what makes me think I can help you with Life Transition?
I have been through more transitions than you can imagine during my 60+ Years. Not only that, I’m willing to bet I’ve probably made every mistake that can be made. And, from that, I’ve learned.
I have a new course out which will save you a lot of time, protect you from more grief than you could ever imagine, and help keep you from spending or losing between $10,000 and $75,000.
I have learned how to do Life Transitions right, how to get where you want to be and be doing what you want to be doing and living the lifestyle you want to be living. And how to do it in a sane and orderly fashion.
When we need to make a change in life, some people fall into a rut or a metaphorical hole. A place in our minds that we just cannot get out of. Quite often we just feel stuck there, and unable to get out. Unable to see the path to our next position. Sometimes we find it by luck. Sometimes we never find it, and sometimes we find it because someone came along and saw us in that hole and jumped into it with us. Metaphorically speaking, I am here to help keep you out of any holes, and if necessary to drop into the hole with you. You may look at me like I was crazy. I could hear you say ‘now are both stuck in the hole.’
It is okay, I’ve been there, and I know the way out.
And for those of you not in the hole yet, even better. Having been there, I can now warn people about the holes and help them not to fall into those holes to start with.
If you spent three years moving between two or three jobs as you try to work out a lifestyle transition, you’ll probably lose about $10,000 worth of earnings that you could’ve made by staying with one company and are better if you can get into the right company to start with. This course teaches you how to research and know the good and bad about the company before you apply for a job.
I have many friends who came out of either the military or college and went into something that they thought they wanted to do. To gain the new credentials for the positions, they spent time getting advanced degrees, thousands of hours in some cases going through internships or externships to earn certifications. And after all the time and money spent they learned one escape the inescapable fact, “They hated that job.”
If I you can save a little money along the way that’s a beautiful thing. But that’s not the most important thing I should be doing for you. As silly as it seems, money is a renewable resource. You can always go out somewhere and earn more money. The one thing you cannot gain more of is time. We each have so much time on this earth, and then we’re going to be gone. And the worst part is, we have no clue exactly when our time is going to be up. If I can help you save a little time that’s much more than all the money that I could ever imagine saving you.
Think of what you could do with some extra time to grow in your company, to live the lifestyle you would really like to live, enjoy your family and kids.
I have three wonderful boys. I learned that they don’t stay small forever. They grow, they go to college, then they leave the house. I miss them so does their mom.
To know little about me, I’ve been teaching professionally since 2003. I have taught everything from corporate training, teaching technology at a contract manufacturing high-tech plant, to teaching people how to write their resumes and prepare for the interview and earn their next job. I’ve taught live classes. And I have converted live courses to online courses. And I have developed online courses some of which are for sale today. I am a certified Six Sigma Greenbelt. My Hold a Bachelor of Science in Business Management. I am a member of the Delta Mu Delta business honor society. I earned a Master of Arts in Education Majoring in Adult Education and Training.
My course is like no other. Why? In this course, I am focusing full attention on to your success. I will give you my email and make it possible for us to communicate via Facetime or ZOOM whenever you need to talk to me.
I’m a life coach. Although formally being a life coach is something new to me, it is something I’ve done most of my life. I did this as a team chief in the Air Force, a supervisor and a trainer at a high-tech contract manufacturing plant, and helping people to prepare for interviews and write resumes to gain new employment. I have spent a lot of time as the coach, helping people to see their way to their own victories.
Life stage transition sometimes sounds like a big thing. It can seem like, “Oh my goodness! I am going to change and never come back to where I was.” The truth of the matter is we’re continually changing. As we grow and we learn more, or our circumstances change, or our needs change we find ourselves in the state of transition. Some transitions we can know about and plan for and some transitions we do not always see coming at us. And yet, transitions are a thing that we do have to face.
I am releasing a new course on life stage transition soon. It is a course designed, not to scare you, it is intended to help you understand, face things head on, and in doing so not spend extra time or money, you do not have to overspend to get what you really want out of the transition. Keep an eye on this blog, and I will gladly keep you in the loop as to when the course opens up, and how you can take the course.
I look forward to talking with you again tomorrow. Tomorrow I will show you some exciting new video from our course.