Love is a human trait

Love is a human trait.  Being loved in return proves success at being human. Not everyone gets to experience being loved. However, for those who do there is no better feeling in the entire world. Love is something that is fleeting, emotional, and full of risk. Love is also something which may stand the test of time, or be gone five minutes from now.

At its essence, love is. And, is given unconditionally. 

The why is rarely the same from individual to individual.  Often love evolves as small isolated actions are recognized and brought into a gestalt focus. Although almost impossible to define, the entire experience is undeniable to those who experience the actions.

If you do not identify the experience from another, it does not necessarily mean love is not there.  It only means the reception may be poor or not focused.  For some reason, and managed by higher forces in the universe, love is there for most.  The strange thing is that love almost never happens where we expect it to. 

The scariest part of love, it is quiet.  To experience love you need to open yourself to emotional dangers.  Becoming defenseless to any danger is not a normal human trait.  Not knowing the outcome to be positive or negative, each party stands in emotional danger.  True love is best taken slowly and built layer upon layer.

Love builds the bonds over time that are stronger than any other substance known today.  Love is more precious than gold or jewels.  Mainly because love is so much harder to find and flourish.

For all the hazards and pitfalls of the trail to real love, there is nothing like it and nothing better anywhere.

I highly recommend it.

Helping or Hindering?

Have you ever gone for a walk downtown? We have a great downtown it is alive and vibrant, and it is always changing. People shop and go to the movies and the theater. And there are great and wonderful restaurants. We have churches of just about every faith and denomination, and we usually get along very well. All our churches and many of our citizens work together to develop a safety net for homeless and indigent people.

We offer the indigent free meals, a place to sleep warm on cold nights, close haircuts and many had this back to a regular life. Many of the homeless will enjoy these various offerings, and yet not be interested in finding continuous employment. Many, perform a dangerous task of begging for money at major intersections, and at offramps to major highways. When they let people like me drive, I understand how dangerous, for both the driver and the beggar, such a precarious use of the road begging is.

I understand the desire for the homeless and indigent to do what they can to collect money. And I do feel for the plight of those who are stuck on the street. I was told that the homeless collect about $11 an hour begging at an offramp or a major cross street. I have also been told that those begging can collect $27 an hour.

I believe more protections need to be available to those begging, the drivers, and, the other pedestrians in the area. I am not sure though that this is totally possible. The ACLU protects the rights of the indigent and homeless to beg at the spots they use.

I do like and appreciate the work of the ACLU, and I think if they really want to help the poor and indigent, they should find better ways for these people to earn a living. After all, the ACLU is there to protect everyone, and we are all part of everyone.

The ACLU could work with the City and County, the local workforce center, and various state and federal grants, to find jobs for anyone who does not have a job. Some people can cut grass, and some people can use a leaf blower, or pick up trash. Some people can do assembly work. Some people can do assembly work, or help with recycling efforts.

Granted some people are just lost. They are confused, maybe with medical or physical impairments that make it hard for them to live a regular life. These people are the ones that we should really be taking care of. And, they are usually the ones, which are helped last.

I also understand, that doing one good deed for one person, often launches a bad deed of unintended consequences for another. Not so many decades ago, the legislature and mental health advocates worked together to empty mental health wards and hospitals. They believed, they were doing good for all those poor people who had been locked up for so many years. However, letting everyone go did some good for those who did not belong in mental wards. At the same time, it did horrendous damage to many who needed to be in and have the guidance of those wards and hospitals.

Many now roam the streets, and alleyways, with neither proper medication nor anyone to ensure they take the medication. I honestly believe we are doing a disservice to these people, and we should find better ways to handle the problem.Â

Of course, it all boils down to money. Emptying the mental wards in hospitals saved private insurance companies, and the federal government some big bucks. And they would prefer not to be required to pick up those funding streams again. Although, the costs and burdens now move to emergency services and transportation, city and county police forces and sheriff’s offices, businesses who have losses due to breakage or theft caused by those released from the wards in hospitals. And, private citizens who the mentally ill may attack.

I am earnestly searching for a better way to handle this concern. What we need is a more national discussion on this topic. I ask you to please send this blog to your friends and acquaintances. I also urge everyone to reply to the blog and tell us about any solutions you can think of.

 

 

Planning

Have you ever noticed how frustrating it gets when your plans don’t go the way you expect them to go?  Have you ever gotten frustrated to the point where you cannot figure out how you got to where you are, no idea of how to get back on track, and just want to quit and hide?

Don’t feel bad we all get that way. We look at others on an outing, on a Saturday afternoon, and they look so much in control. We had problems with the store being out of what we wanted to buy, the kids having problems and being fussy in the car, or pets who decide they want to play chase and tag with you and run out the gate just as everybody’s getting into the car.

What do we do about our plans going wrong?  We learn to laugh a little. We understand these things happen. And, not to get upset every time something doesn’t go the way we desire.

Now you’re starting to think, “How did the pros do it?”  As a retired Master Sergeant, I’m here to tell you, there is no corporation better planning than the US military.  And yet, everyone in the US military who has ever been part of building a plan can tell you one thing, plans will generally fall apart with the first enemy contact.

You think I’m kidding you. I assure you I am not. We all develop our plans.  We plan the best we can.  We work with all our prayers, talismans, and other rituals to ensure things go right. And yet, in the end, there is always something that goes awry.

The question becomes, “Why do we do all of the work if we know at some point it will fall apart?”  The answer is simple, knowing that things will generally fall apart, you plan anyway. In that planning, you are continuously looking for the what-ifs, the contingents, the “if this” happens I will “do that.”

I’m not saying that you’re going to get lucky, although sometimes luck is involved. I’m not saying that you will think of absolutely everything. It’s rare. What I’m saying is, the more you plan, and the more you look at the contingencies, the better you will understand.

In understanding, you will see strong spots and weak spots. Having a heads up on strong and weak areas will make your decisions during the execution of the plan much better.  The decisions and changes are now based on what you learned during your preparation. What I’d like to suggest is make the best plans possible.

Every time I plan I know the plan won’t run as predicted. I do not know exactly what will happen to change the plan. I do know what options are available, and I can make much better’s decisions.

Ever planned, and the preparations made changes and decisions easier to make?  If you would like to share something about how planning saved the day when plans went awry, Please, give us a response and tell us what happened.

Fears

In our world, we have many fears.  We fear what is going to happen next.  We fear various animals.  We fear the dark.  We fear the roads we travel and if the plane will land safely. Sometimes we fear many other things. The truth is, both real and often unrealistic fears boil down to one thing. Fear of the unknown.

Fear of the unknown is very big fear. If I let my son go camping with the Boy Scouts will he be safe this weekend? If I let my daughter go to a slumber party will she be safe or are the kids going to find alcohol and get drunk? What happens if I am laid off from work? How will we eat and how will we pay the rent?

Being afraid and is a terrible thing. I know where I talk of because I lived the majority of my life in fear. Afraid of each decision I made, and afraid of where the decision would be right or wrong, and what the consequences could be. And, I was afraid to let anybody know I felt that way.

For me, it took hitting rock bottom the point where it took me two hours to drive home from the market, only two blocks away. I  had fear that whatever I said on the phone would be misinterpreted and taken has a danger or threat. And, even fear of my coworkers, I was not sure if I was doing enough to help them or not, and I was always checking up to make sure they were okay.

For me, I got to the point where I realized as much as I wanted to keep these concerns secret, for fear of what people would think, I knew I had to get help. I made a call and set up an appointment with a doctor. The doctor prescribed me a medicine to curb these worries. My first question to him was, “If I am afraid to drive now, why would you give me drugs? I do not want to drive on drugs.”  He laughed, looked at me and said, Well, I drive on those roads also, and I am not going to give you anything that puts anyone else in danger.”

It took a month for the drugs to take good effect, and I slowly release the fears. Not spending all my time worrying, allowed me to make far better decisions and start to enjoy my life a little bit. As time went on, I compared myself with the character on the TV show Monk. Tony Shalhoub had better writers, and I had better meds.

I write this to encourage everyone not to live in fear. If you need help seek out help, remember most fear is fear of the unknown. The fact is 65% of everything we worry about never comes to pass. I also recommend that when you fear something, do some research, get on the web and look up whatever it, and learn all you can.Knowledge is power. Should you still be worried about really dangerous things? I am. Just know what you are afraid of, do your research, and make sure the fear is rational one.

Please share this with friends, colleagues, and anyone else you would like.  You never know when a chance emailing can change someone’s life for the better.

Please tell me what you like

This is not a sales page, and I promise not to try to sell you anything here.  I am a course builder and a writer.  Lately, I have been encouraged to find out from others what is on their mind and what books and courses they might like to see.  This quiz is an attempt to reach people on the web and ask those questions.  Even if you give me an email, I promise this is not a sales page or ad.  I am just trying to find out what people are interested in or concerned about.

Thank you for taking this short 1 page survey.  Here is the Link:

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Are You Looking in the Right Direction?

We all seem to be in search of something. Moreover, there are many people out there who are willing to lead us on that search in exchange, in exchange for something they want. They may want money or attention, or understanding or belief they are doing good or fulfilling some purpose. They do want something.

The question is, do those offering you guidance understand what you are looking for and can they really provide what you are need requires?

I find it interesting that our eyes set at the front of our body on the high ground and focus outwards. Unless you look in the mirror, you do not see an image of yourself, and it is hard to see what goes on behind the eyes. You have to look around look behind you again more mirrors with images.

The question I have today is, ‘Are you looking in the right place?’ Or, are you running all over the place looking here and looking there for answers? Do you seek things in many places, yet, never seem to be able to find them? Do the claims of others somehow generally leave you short of where you want to be, feeling somehow less, and somehow again without.

There is another place you can look. The place is one of the hardest to look and yet one of the easiest to get. You need to look within yourself.

Is there anybody who knows you better than you do? Who knows what you want? You do. Who knows what you like and don’t like? You do. Who knows how far you are willing to go to get something done, and done the way you want it done? Oh yeah, that is you. Okay

Reach out to the world to collaborate, to communicate, to solve technical issues, and to learn new ideas. Never let others tell you who you are or who you should be throwing a strong keep.

Would you like to discuss the idea of internal growth?  Please leave a comment. You can always reach me at mikeb@readingsticks.space

What Next

In the Bible, in John 14:12 it says,

“verily I tell you whoever believes in me will do the works I have been doing and they will do even greater things than these because I am going to the Father.” (NIV, n.d.)

It makes me wonder. If a person from 2000 years ago, came today and sees what we do, would he relate the changes in our technology and abilities back to the quote from John? I also wonder if we were catapulted two thousand years into the future, what would we see and to what would we attribute it?

To understand, we would need a context. What was a person of 2000 years ago, compared to a person of today? And, what are we like in comparison to the people 2000 years from now?

The person from 2000 years ago, did not live in caves, they had cities and commerce they had urban and rural areas, and in Jerusalem, there were suburban areas.  They had commerce they worked for a living they built furniture, they fished, they grew livestock, they farmed, they paid and collected taxes, they traveled, and they knew of their world.

We do all that today. 2000 years ago they had libraries. They had medicine. They had wars and famines. They had laws and judiciary. Imagine the differences between then and now.

We often use the past to see the future.  Five years from now is easy.  Most big projects are planned five years out.  Ten is a little more gets hazy, and the further out you look, the harder it gets.

So, what do you do to know the future?  Start now.  Look at what we have now.  And ask why.

Science fiction of fifty years ago gave us great inventions we use today.  Don’t think so?  Call me on my cell phone, and we will talk.

APA: John 14:12-14, New International Version (NIV) Very truly … (n.d.). Retrieved from https://www.bible.com/bible/111/jhn.14.12-14.niv