Can You Help Yourself?

This is a fair question, and we would like to think that yes, we can take care of ourselves and help ourselves when we get into a pinch. Everyone wants to look as though he or she is in control. And sometimes we are willing to put on false airs to pretend everything is okay.

Pretending everything is okay, though, just doesn’t help as things start to stack up against us. As problems and worries stack up, we end up having tunnel vision and lose sight of the full picture, especially solutions. It’s hard to see anything except for the problems.

This is the best time to have someone else in our corner that we can turn to for help. Working with someone else is often essential because, we see in a nearsighted fashion, often being able to identify problems and not able to tell whether there even real or not. With someone else by our side, they may be able to look a little more far afield, and they are much more likely to be able to see in a 360-degree range. They can help us decipher what the real problems are and even help find ways to overcome them.

This person could be an accountability partner, a mentor, or a life coach. It is better to have someone that we talk to on a recurring basis who knows us. If we only show up and talk to someone when we’ve got a problem and are worried or scared, it is much harder for them to help because they don’t know the whole us.

Even having a life coach and spending $70 once or twice a month to meet and discuss plans for the future is well worth the money. Just by being able to talk to someone else you can often hear what works and what won’t. Discussing concerns and problems has a magical way of reducing stress and worry on us. And by thinking things through, we could probably even save more than what the coach costs just by being able to discuss things in advance and have someone else to help you find solutions.

I have come to learn that having a coach, a mentor, or someone else who work with and be honest with me is an excellent idea.

Thanks for being with me today, I look forward to being with you again tomorrow.

Got Help?

It is okay to need or offer help.

One day or another, on one question or another each of us needs assistance in finding the answers. Help sometimes comes in the form of knowing something the other person does not and sharing that knowledge. Other times, it is the ability to do something that another person cannot do for themselves.

Once again, we see significant weather phenomena, affecting our coastline. With wind and rain, and devastation to buildings and infrastructure, we see people in the middle of the storm bringing in their boats and going out to help people. We think those people and praise them for risking their own life and limb to save others.

Most of the time, help does not require anything quite so dramatic. Help is often two friends having a talk, sharing information, knowing that one would gladly give another a hand. Help is often someone just listening to another person and giving them a suggestion or two.

In many instances, the person being helped today may be giving the help tomorrow or the next day. After all, as the poets remind us, we are not islands, and we were never designed to live in solitude. Help and being helped is part of our inherited destiny. And, we should participate in that destiny when needed.

Removing the Pebbles

We enjoyed a rain last night, celebrating the fourth. The rain kept the amateurs at bay, and I can’t believe that the diehards actually set off fireworks during a thunderstorm. With the rain, at least, it cut down on the chance of fire which is plaguing our state so much lately.

Now the summer lays out before us. Work in the yard, warm days and cool nights, and the chance for me to actually complete some things which I think will help some people. As big as it sounds, I have worked some mind maps and made some plans. Right now, one of the people I need to help is me.

I have many ideas I have been working on, and I need to publish them soon. I need to work with my audiences, and I need to produce in a way that helps individuals by identifying and helping them to remove their pain points. Not all pain points are life-and-death, yet even removing a small one, just like taking the pebble out of the shoe, can help somebody enjoy a better journey.

If you are suffering a pain point, either metaphorically or physically, please write me and let me know. Believe it or not, the active sharing a pain point with someone else actually makes it less painful. And, if the blog is too open a forum to share this pain, you may write me at mikeb@reveille.rocks. Also, if you have the opposite of the pain point, something good going on, that is good to share too.

Talk to you again tomorrow.

Good Samaritans?

Ever Lend someone a helping hand? Ever not lend a helping hand because of fear? Either way, have you ever wondered why?

Some people say we only do whatever we do out of either fear or greed. Others claim that we only work out of altruistic desires. I’m willing to bet that when everything is boiled down, there’s a combination of all three in there.

On the one hand were always afraid that somebody’s going to put one over on us. That is when a helping hand becomes a doing for and being responsible for somebody else’s needs, and welfare while they do nothing. This leads us to a feeling of not wanting to get involved.

On another hand, we want to do good for others. When we see a homeless person in our community, we have a tendency to think about how with just a few changes in history, it could be us out there. We know that if we were there, we might need some help to get back to where we are now. We want to help in the hopes that if we were there, someone else would help.

What is the right thing to do? Well, that depends on many things. Are we in a position to help? Is it better to help with a donation of monies or donation of personal time? What help is present through other means to those on the street, and what do they need that nobody is doing presently? This is a complicated issue.

A good man from Galilee stated that the poor would be with us always. This brings me to believe that it is something that may never be cured, yet can be maintained. I can tell you that our country is blessed with riches.

When I went to a foreign country, I saw orphans in the street wearing filthy pajamas and eating leaves while those around utterly ignored and shunned them. I told my son when I got back to the states. He said to me that I was wrong, that I misunderstood. No one anywhere would ever treat a child like that. I wished his statement was correct. Only, I am the one who was there and had seen the lack of care.

I know that no one can do it all and I believe the best we can do is help people to help themselves. Yet, I always think of the good Samaritan and wonder if I am holding up my end of the bargain.