Be Who You Are

I find kids fascinating. They seem to soak up knowledge at an unbelievable rate. They’re honest, and more than anything else, they are genuine. If you ask a kid a question, you know you’re going to get a straight answer.

Kids are a little freer to think and learn because they don’t have egos getting in their way. If you have read my blogs, you have probably seen my observation that the main difference between teaching children and adults is that you dumb it down a little bit for the adults. Adults have egos which are bruised easily. Egos, especially bruised egos, make it harder for someone to learn.

Egos get in our way because we begin to worry about what other people think of us. We start to assume ideas of what others are thinking of us. And sometimes we develop false ideas of what we have to project to others and how we have to act because those actions are expected by others.

The truth is a little different. What we should do is be ourselves and be genuine. We should not act the way we think others think we should behave. We should actually be ourselves. No pretenses. No false airs of importance. No preconceived notions. Just ourselves. Ready to interact, learn, grow, and be happy within ourselves and our community.

I think I hear a thought sneaking into my consciousness right now saying,” Easier said than done.” I believe that anything we do is only as easy as we make it on ourselves. By being genuine, we get to live our own lives. We save time, emotion, and even money by not pretending to be something we are not. And, we feel better because we get to be who we are.

Think about this. This may not be something for the faint of heart. It is something that might help people wanting to be who they are.

Thanks for being with me today. I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

Know Thyself

It is essential that we actually find out what we need to do in life, and to do this we need to research. We need to research not only what is out there that we could do. We need to research ourselves. Sound a little strange? You would be surprised.

When my oldest son was younger, he wanted to be a lawyer. He wanted to study at Harvard Law. And, he was very gifted intellectually and more than able to do so. Up until about his junior year, he was set to be a solicitor as they would say in England. Then something very unexpected happened. Taking the SAT for the first time, he did very well in English, very well. And, surprisingly he almost aced the math portion.

He was so surprised at how easy math was for him that he decided he would retake the SAT again next year and just ace it. And he did. He is now a tenured professor at a prestigious school on the West Coast teaching the various forms of mathematics and calculus and doing pure research.

The change in mindset would not have happened if he had not by chance done well on an SAT and decided to explore those possibilities. Until then, it was a hidden talent. My question to you today is, what hidden skills do you have?

You may have talents you know nothing about. That’s why they call them hidden. How do you find out about them? You have to do a little research on you. You need to take a few assessments, try new things, and maybe try a few lessons online or at your local community college.

Do not over-invest or spend money you do not have to start with. Yet try things. If you’re really interested in something, ask if you can shadow someone doing it for a day. If you’re curious about something, find somebody who does that job, can take that person out for some coffee and talk to them for 20 min. Do not look at just the things that are fun for you about the job, also explore those things that may not be so fun for you. It is crucial that you know all the facets that go into any gem of a job.

Thanks for being with me and hopefully will meet again tomorrow.