Why Not

We often ask Why. If you saw yesterday’s blog, the entire thing was devoted to the question of why.  Today is a little more challenging.  Today I invite you to ponder the question, “Why not?”  Do you often ask this question?  I mean in front of others.

It is hard when someone tells you that something cannot be done, that there is no hope, or that something has to be done a certain way merely because it is tradition.  What makes this phrase worse is that the person you say it to thinks you are challenging them, personally.  When this happens, emotion spills into the room and the conversation. 

You want to avoid emotion if you are trying to make a correct business decision. Passion may point out some needed truths. Unfortunately, emotion can lead to ire and hurt feelings.  And hurt feelings can definitely cause good desires to go sideways.

You should keep emotion out of business.  If you can do so, write and tell me about it.  You would be the first person I have ever known to actually do so.

Just because something is hard to accomplish, that does not mean we should not try.  Why not at least try.  New discoveries are going on all the time.  Maybe we could help set a new precedent.  Why not.

Maybe we could help others to find new ways of learning, teaching, discovering, and enjoying life through new ideas.  Maybe the unsolvable problems would be seen in a new and more understandable light.  And, possibly good could come from different views.  Why not?

Thank you for being with me today.  I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

Why?

Because… Why, is the shortest question to find an answer.  When you are not sure of what to ask or where to start, the beginning is always ‘Why?’ Why is this the way it is? Why is this not done differently?  And my favorite from every three-year-old, why is the sky blue?

It is no mistake that the curiosity of the very young mind starts with this three-letter word.  And such usage must ask for the top tier of knowledge.  What’s more, there is a substantial likelihood that your tot is asking the exact same questions that you asked when you were their age.  The same ones your parents asked their mom and dad.

Imagine if you had a real answer ready to go in return.  ‘Timmy, the sky is blue because that is the color reflected from the oceans around the world.’  The next time the same query is asked, you can say, “Remember, Timmy, it is because of the reflections of the ocean into the sky.”

Does this take a little legwork? Sure.  Yet every time you answer a question with real information, does that not make everyone just a little bit smarter?

Smarter, at a younger age, appears to open the way to better questions.  If you are hit with a subject you are not sure of, you can say, “that is a wonderful question.  Would you like to see how we find the answers?” Then you could take them to the library, look up the answer on your tablet or smartphone, or use some other method to find facts about the subject.  Even YouTube is getting better at this.

The more a child realizes that he or she is taken seriously, and real facts can be found, the faster real learning starts.  The answers are relevant both to knowledge and better future questions.  Does this mean your kid will be an Einstein by age 12? Probably not.  Yet even if the queries are short-lived, the way you answer could make a valuable and lasting memory.

Thank you for being with me today.  I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

Better Understanding Yourself

They say that you should not invest in a piece of art unless you just cannot see yourself living without it.  I imagine that is true. It turns out in our world today that most things are purchased not because they are the best, or they are the cheapest, or the most expensive, or in high supply, or very rare. They are purchased because we have an emotional attachment to them.

What is your favorite candy bar? Which coffee shop is your favorite? Have you purchased a particular brand of car more than once? If you own a house why did you buy it? Why are you in the job that you are in? These are all excellent questions. If you start to look at them and answer honestly, you start to discover patterns within your self. Patterns that give insight into your likes and dislikes, and even deeper into your emotions.

Please do not worry about this. We all have things we like and others that we do not like. And, we have emotions usually based on things that have happened earlier in our lives. If we take a look at why we like something or dislike something else, we might be able to follow the trail back to an origin. And that might give us a new insight or perspective on ourselves.

The insight could be as simple as I ate one of these candy bars every day after school, and it made me feel better. It could be that this brand of car was my first car and was my first taste of freedom. It could be as emotional as I was struck by a drunk coming home from the prom and this brand of car kept my passengers and me safe. Yes, sometimes our purchases are quite emotional.

If we can dig deep and find out why we feel what we feel, we have a much better chance of understanding ourselves, what we do and why we do it. If we know ourselves, we might have a better chance of doing better and making more inroads to get to where we really want to be.

You never know what you may find, and this type of journey is not for the faint of heart. Yet, you may find it interesting, and even a road to improvement within yourself. You do not have to take this trip alone. There are great life coaches who can help you navigate these discoveries and help you put meaning to them.

Thank you for being with me today. I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

 

 

We Don’t Always Know the Why’s

We don’t always know why things happen. Yesterday it was 75° here. And by this evening we will be enjoying the snow. With 2 – 5 inches due by tomorrow.  Most people here don’t understand why the weather changes so fast. The only thing we can say is, “Welcome to the wonderful world of Colorado weather.” This may be an extreme example, yet the idea behind it is real for more than just Colorado. We see this throughout our lives. We see things happen both good and evil, and can only ask ‘Why?’

We try to attach meaning to events to make them more understandable.  And yet, why a plane ends up in the sea, or a car crashes or anything else happens, is often beyond our understanding.  Many times, I see things, and I can only ask why because I don’t know.  Why did this or that happen? Why?

I do not want to blame everything on random chance.  I also do not want to blame all tragedies on pre-ordained fate.  As a process engineer who believes in continuous improvement, I know that as we understand more, safety and health improve.  And, in this, there is some understanding.  Because someone a long time ago stood next to some shiny leaves and got a rash, we now know to stay away from poison ivy.  Someone had to make the error so the rest of us could learn.

The next time something happens, we could blame it on fate.  We can blame the pre-ordination of man, or we can empathize with the who and what, and learn something that could help us, and everyone else.

It is hard to say why things happen.  I know I do not understand a lot in the larger scheme of things. I do know that time, life, and knowledge are essential.  I feel I need to pay more attention.

Thanks for being with me today.  I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

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