Your Relationship With Fear

Fear is an emotional reaction to an overwhelming concern or danger which we’re afraid is going to hurt us. Fear can work as long as we believe the danger is real. Fear actually doesn’t have to be real, we just have to think that it is. People like to get fearful, I believe in part, because of the endorphin rush our brain receives when we realize we are OK and there was nothing to be afraid of to start with. Yet, for some people, a fear which is not resolved can become a genuine concern.

In the Gulf War, I was stationed on an island in the middle of the Atlantic. I had my family with me, and we had a maid that would come out and clean the house twice a week. There was a report on the local country’s news about our foes having a submarine. Our maid was very fearful that the submarine would land troops on our little island and cause havoc. I explained to her that the people fighting the war had a lot of concerns in their own country and would not have time lore reason to try to invade our island.

Our maid’s fears were caused by reports put out on the news by the local government. After talking with her and having her sit down and think things out logically, her anxiety was relieved, and she felt better. Many of us have a tendency to hear something and become fearful of something that is not real. Instead, they are afraid of an image that is hastily and often uncorroborated,  developed within our mind.

We need to counter our hastily derived thoughts by taking the time to find out the facts and think the dilemma out logically. On average, 65% of the things we fear are either untrue or never come to pass. You should take the time to consider the premise and figure out the answers.

Thank you for being with me today. I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

Genuinely You

Even though we enjoy thinking of ourselves at times as stark individualists, we are actually social beings. We desire to belong. We would like to know that we fit somewhere within the norm. You do not have to take my word for this. You will know this by listening to yourself.

Have you ever noticed that when we are sick, we worry? It’s true, it happens. Sometimes we can feel a little better just by scheduling an appointment with the doctor. If the symptoms are strange to us or interrupt our lives and we don’t know why, we worry a little more. And we will continue to manifest concerns until the doctor identifies the problem and gives a name of the disease or affliction.

This happens because when we feel ill, we perceive ourselves as having something that possibly no one else has, and something that cannot be cured. When we make the appointment to see the doctor, we can relax a little bit because we feel that help is on the way. And when we are examined by the doctor and get the diagnosis, we then know that we are not alone, that our malady does happen within the world, and there are things we can do to make it better.

Once diagnosed, we take our pills or medicines and follow the required routines to get better. A large part of healing is the knowledge that we are not alone, we are part of a group who either has or has had the same afflictions.

Think of all the times we have the same experiences based on our thoughts and concerns. We quite often are much more afraid because of how we may be thought of based on how we act or think. We start to convince ourselves we are the only one who feels this way or does something that way. We also convince ourselves that if anyone else found out about it, we would be ostracized from the rest of society. That’s not necessarily true.

Just like taking care of the body helps us to understand that we are normal, and we learn how to live better with our bodies. We do the same by taking care of our minds and understanding that we are normal mentally as well as physically. If you go to see a coach or a counselor, it does not mean you are sick, or abnormal, or have a mental defect that needs you to be ostracized from society. Just the opposite is true. It says that you are interested in learning how to work better with you. You want to understand how you think of things. And why you may do things a different way from your friends. When you talk to someone, you are taking positive steps, and because of those positive steps, you will find it easier to be a genuine you.