Oops All Over Again

The older we become, the more we can identify the mistakes we make and how the frequencies of those errors multiply.  As these miscues happen, we start to worry about what is happening and why. We really should not be disturbed, and I would like to explain why.

As we age, more and more information, activities, incidents, and other actions are stored in our brains. The more we learn and grow, the more time we spend remembering.  We are computing in our minds, working on problems, and everything else that we are doing during our day. Amazingly, we do not make more mistakes.

I do need to tell you that it is not a problem, even if you walk into the wrong room or open the wrong door on the refrigerator/freezer. You recognized the problem and then corrected the error.  If you can identify a mistake and make a proper adjustment to do what you wanted, you are doing ok.

If you open up the refrigerator instead of the freezer, looking for the ice cream, and ransacking the shelves looking for it, you may have a momentary lapse. If you then storm off blaming everyone else for eating the ice cream and throwing the carton away without getting more, you are having a real senior moment.  And if you go into the Laundry room and find the drier in a new corner all wired up and working, you may be having a disassociative moment.  These things will typically pass.  The trick in these cases is to stay calm.

A good night’s sleep helps with memory turmoil. Eating right and getting out for a little fresh air and exercise is also on the hit list for helping out.  Many people use 3 large breaths to calm the situation.  I think that taking 10 minutes of meditation somewhere during the day helps to clear the mind and get back towards normal.

None of this is a medical diagnosis nor a cure-all.  If problems are a concern or persistent, mention them at your next doctor’s visit.  And please remember, if you try something new, starting in small trials and seeing how it affects you is always best.

Thank you for being with me today.  I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

Your Relationship With Fear

Fear is an emotional reaction to an overwhelming concern or danger which we’re afraid is going to hurt us. Fear can work as long as we believe the danger is real. Fear actually doesn’t have to be real, we just have to think that it is. People like to get fearful, I believe in part, because of the endorphin rush our brain receives when we realize we are OK and there was nothing to be afraid of to start with. Yet, for some people, a fear which is not resolved can become a genuine concern.

In the Gulf War, I was stationed on an island in the middle of the Atlantic. I had my family with me, and we had a maid that would come out and clean the house twice a week. There was a report on the local country’s news about our foes having a submarine. Our maid was very fearful that the submarine would land troops on our little island and cause havoc. I explained to her that the people fighting the war had a lot of concerns in their own country and would not have time lore reason to try to invade our island.

Our maid’s fears were caused by reports put out on the news by the local government. After talking with her and having her sit down and think things out logically, her anxiety was relieved, and she felt better. Many of us have a tendency to hear something and become fearful of something that is not real. Instead, they are afraid of an image that is hastily and often uncorroborated,  developed within our mind.

We need to counter our hastily derived thoughts by taking the time to find out the facts and think the dilemma out logically. On average, 65% of the things we fear are either untrue or never come to pass. You should take the time to consider the premise and figure out the answers.

Thank you for being with me today. I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

Genuinely You

Even though we enjoy thinking of ourselves at times as stark individualists, we are actually social beings. We desire to belong. We would like to know that we fit somewhere within the norm. You do not have to take my word for this. You will know this by listening to yourself.

Have you ever noticed that when we are sick, we worry? It’s true, it happens. Sometimes we can feel a little better just by scheduling an appointment with the doctor. If the symptoms are strange to us or interrupt our lives and we don’t know why, we worry a little more. And we will continue to manifest concerns until the doctor identifies the problem and gives a name of the disease or affliction.

This happens because when we feel ill, we perceive ourselves as having something that possibly no one else has, and something that cannot be cured. When we make the appointment to see the doctor, we can relax a little bit because we feel that help is on the way. And when we are examined by the doctor and get the diagnosis, we then know that we are not alone, that our malady does happen within the world, and there are things we can do to make it better.

Once diagnosed, we take our pills or medicines and follow the required routines to get better. A large part of healing is the knowledge that we are not alone, we are part of a group who either has or has had the same afflictions.

Think of all the times we have the same experiences based on our thoughts and concerns. We quite often are much more afraid because of how we may be thought of based on how we act or think. We start to convince ourselves we are the only one who feels this way or does something that way. We also convince ourselves that if anyone else found out about it, we would be ostracized from the rest of society. That’s not necessarily true.

Just like taking care of the body helps us to understand that we are normal, and we learn how to live better with our bodies. We do the same by taking care of our minds and understanding that we are normal mentally as well as physically. If you go to see a coach or a counselor, it does not mean you are sick, or abnormal, or have a mental defect that needs you to be ostracized from society. Just the opposite is true. It says that you are interested in learning how to work better with you. You want to understand how you think of things. And why you may do things a different way from your friends. When you talk to someone, you are taking positive steps, and because of those positive steps, you will find it easier to be a genuine you.