Being able to say no is a key talent to have. The better someone is, the more the rest of the world will want to lean on that person and have them do the work. It turns out this work is often free or pro bono. We all like to help, myself included, and yet there is a time when we have to be accountable to ourselves for where we are in life and what we have to earn to sustain ourselves and our families.

Having to tell someone no often hurts me more than the person who asked in the first place. I do like to help people. I am always open to a new venture. And I want to get out and work with people. I have learned that finding myself into so many things and so far over my head with different work, it was hard to see the light of day. Saying no and finding a way to make the other person feel good about it was very hard for me to do. Today, if I can help someone and still accomplish my goals, I will do so. Yet, there is a hierarchy I need to remember of who I have to take care of first before I have the luxury of reaching out and helping others.

Have you ever found yourself with too much work to accomplish because you’re helping others? How do you handle it?

Author: Mike Balof

A retired Air Force Master Sergeant, Mike used to lay in bed at night and worry about what would happen if his plant closed or found himself without a job. One day his plant closed. Rather than panic and hysteria (OK, maybe a little) Mike found himself carried away on the adventure of his life. Mike started with the best job he ever had working at Home Depot. He spent 8 years working with job seekers at a local workforce center, helping them to find employment. He then started his own company developing courses, writing books and urging others to follow their own paths into the future. Mike holds a Master of Arts in Adult Education and Training and a Bachelor of Business Management, earned through the University of Phoenix and an AAS degree in Electronics Systems Technology from the Community College of the Air Force. Mike is a member of the Delta Mu Delta Business Honor Society.

One thought on “No”

  1. Oh yes there was a time I was so busy helping others that I was to tired to do anything for myself. I don’t know if 8ts because I’m alot older now, but saying no has gotten so easy for me to say. Im more blunt now a days. I still help out my loved ones because I do like being there for them. But I only do what I can handle and nothing more. 😁


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