Limit Your Fear

I want you to think of your past and the times that you found yourself afraid.  Be honest with yourself and count up the number of times you found fear because of something that could happen that you did not have all the answers to understand. Then, I would like you to count up the number of times you found yourself afraid of something that was happening to you that you completely understood and for which you knew all the relevant information.

I am going to predict the highest number is for the times you did not have all the information. I am not a mind reader, and I could get this wrong, yet 65% of what we worry about (fear) are things that never come true.  Also, the more we know, the better our minds can understand it logically.  If we stay centered in our brain between logic and emotion, we are less likely to panic. 

Panic is a tendency to control stressing events with emotion rather than balancing the process out with facts and logic.  Using a whole mind approach is the best way to prevent panic or harsh actions.    Get the facts, understand what they mean to you, and plan accordingly.

If someone is panicking, it is good to have them understand how close the problem is to them.  Start by asking if the problem is in the person’s personal space (18 inches); if not, then is the problem in their friend space (about three and a half feet). If they cannot see the problem in that distance, go on and ask about the common area (about 10 to 11 feet).  If not, ask if it is within a block or a mile or in the city.  If not, it is easier for them to relax.

When problems come along, it is always good to have someone with you.  Between the two of you, common sense can prevail.  Just make sure you are using your full mind.

Thank you for being with me today.  I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

Author: Mike Balof

A retired Air Force Master Sergeant, Mike used to lay in bed at night and worry about what would happen if his plant closed or found himself without a job. One day his plant closed. Rather than panic and hysteria (OK, maybe a little) Mike found himself carried away on the adventure of his life. Mike started with the best job he ever had working at Home Depot. He spent 8 years working with job seekers at a local workforce center, helping them to find employment. He then started his own company developing courses, writing books and urging others to follow their own paths into the future. Mike holds a Master of Arts in Adult Education and Training and a Bachelor of Business Management, earned through the University of Phoenix and an AAS degree in Electronics Systems Technology from the Community College of the Air Force. Mike is a member of the Delta Mu Delta Business Honor Society. View all posts by Mike Balof