Many things we help with boil down to having a misconception on how a person views their life and actions. Although we are often willing to give someone else a break, we often see our own lives as stark 100% right or wrong with nothing except the extremes. Life is not black or white; instead, it is infinite shades of grey. Here are some of the ways we work ourselves into a rut.
We have a tendency sometimes of dramatizing small actions into gigantic events, which will end our chances for good things. Sometimes an error is just a tiny thing that is understood, and everyone moves on.
We love to jump to conclusions. We probably think this would save time, yet we do not know what the future will bring, and we are usually not the best mind readers.
We spend a lot of time in our past trying to tell ourselves what we should have done. You cannot change the past. Trying to find ways to fix that past is just a waste of time. Change “I should have” to “I will.”
We often blame ourselves for not doing the right thing. We forget that we were not the only ones involved, and we use emotions rather than facts to keep focusing on the negatives. We need to balance our thinking.
If you find yourself labeling yourself and others or using some of the worries listed above, a life coach could help you refocus on better and more productive thoughts. If I can help you in any way, please let me know.
Thank you for being with me today. I hope to be with you again soon.
Mike Balof, Life Coach
415 N. Tejon St.
Colorado Springs, CO 80903
719-205-2773 mikeb@reveile.rocks http://www.reveille.rocks