Good Vibes

I like to help people. Quite often, when I was in the service, our squadron or group would help out with a charity in the local community. I am lucky enough to have helped at the Special Olympics, worked with Boy Scouts, worked with the Cub Scouts, ran united way type projects within my shops, and had several other great chances to help. 

This is why I believe I became a teacher and a trainer. I love to help people. There is a point at which somebody starts to get the idea, then you can see the light from inside their head just make their whole face shine with the happiness of learning something new. You think I’m kidding, but you can see that happen, and it is one of the greatest feelings in the world.

My goal, usually, is to leave the world a little bit better than I found it. I believe down inside each of us, we have those feelings. We need to survive. We need to take care of our own. And yet, there is a driving desire to also do well for others.

Do you ever get feelings like this? What is one small thing you could do for someone today that would make a difference in their lives? What kind of a sense do you think you would find afterward?  Think about it, and if you would like, please share.

Thank you for being with me today. I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

What Others Do for Us

Many people are living and working in the world, and those who know us are always helping us, even when we do not realize it.  We need to recognize this assistance and use it to our advantage.  We grow, not by our own work alone. We grow by all the interactions we have along the way with others.

When I met my wife in college, we talked about many things. I talked about how nice it would be to go and live in Alaska for a while and enjoy the scenery and the animals and the climate. My wife told her mom about this conversation, and her mom told her to stay away from me. Her mom was worried and said that I was a dreamer. The fascinating part of this is that my second son was born at the Elmendorf Air Force Base hospital in Anchorage, Alaska.

 We all have relatives and friends who would sometimes doubt our ideas. Tell us that we have to give up foolishness and get serious. I mention these folks first because they are the ones who helped me the most. When I heard all the reasons why I could not do something, it gave me pause to double-check my work and assumptions and to strive even harder. To the naysayers, I owe my most considerable debt of gratitude. Thank you.

We all have those who will challenge us. The friends and family who will egg us on. Those who will dare others to do what they may not do themselves. I appreciate these folks because they help us to stretch. Because of them, we explore our farthermost reach and begin to understand where we can and cannot go. These are often the question askers. Just remember neither you nor anyone else has all the answers. We are often judged by others who listen to what we say. If we are correct in talking about things other people know about, we are more likely to be believed in things that they do not know. If we get what they know about wrong, people are often less likely to trust us.

I like the people who make us think. They will ask why more often than a three-year-old. But each why gives me something to check out and explore. Almost everything we know today started with one word, ‘Why?’

My favorites are mentors. The best mentors don’t just tell you and answer, they ask you questions. They are having patience with you so that you can explore and learn the things which they have learned. It’s the process, not the answer, that helps you grow. This is a gift you cannot afford to keep to yourself, you must share this with others. You do this because when one person grows, all those around them grow also.

Please remember that on the highway of life, knowledge, information, and learning are always a two-way street. If you keep your gains only to yourself, they wither on the vine. As you share what you have learned with others, a magical thing happens. You flourish and grow.

Thank you for being with me today. I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

Are You Happy With Your Alignment

I have read somewhere that when we are born, our only knowledge is how to suckle and the fear of noise. We learn everything else in life as we grow. It is even hard for us to have memories stored in our brain until we have enough knowledge to accurately recall them. Everything else, we learn from someone.

We learned some things from parents and other family members. My brother learned from me how to climb the stairs (I wasn’t supposed to teach him that.) We learn from the friends we play with and others that we meet. We learn things at school, as much from our fellow students as we do from the teacher. And we learn from many other sources: radio, TV, movies, books at the library, just to name few.  Since everyone is different, not everything will line up with our inner self.

Some things we learn do not fit with what we are learning to be. Some things that we learned fade away before they take root. And some things stick with us and become part of the core of who we are.

We need to make an occasional inventory of who we are and where that comes from. Why do we act the way we do? And, why do we believe what we believe? We want to make sure our thoughts and our beliefs lineup with who we really want to be. And, if we are out of alignment, we need to discover a plan or a path to help us find our correct alignment once again.

In our societies, there are times when we do take stock of ourselves to see what is going right and what we want to change. These are usually done during feasts or after the big party. In my society, we hold a big party to say goodbye to the old year and hello to the new one. Then the next day we consider ways that we would like to be better, and we even make resolutions to do something about it. I’m not always sure that trying to change ourselves for the better the day after a big party is beneficial. And resolutions to do so typically fade reasonably fast. I recommend picking a time and place where a person can look over their deeds to date with sobriety and genuine consideration. If we are happy with our station in life and where we are going, that is excellent. If there are changes we would like to make, and we believe that these changes would help us to be better people, then we should explore those thoughts.

Although the changes will typically need to come from within, there are outward actions which we will have to take to accomplish our desires. Unfortunately, this is not totally an armchair exercise. We may need to read new books, learned to appreciate others and ourselves, we may want to find a coach to work with us on these endeavors. And we may want to change the way we do things.

The one positive thing that it is good to know is each of us has abilities and often untapped resources to help us in whatever we wish to actually accomplish in life. And, if we really want to do something positive in our lives, and we put our mind to it, very little is impossible.

Thank you for being with me today. I hope to be with you again tomorrow.