Change Is Hard

To change is hard. We have a tendency to do what we are used to doing. It’s something we usually like at first and then got tired of, grew out of, or possibly started to realize that what we are doing is hurting or killing us. Yet for all the negative reasons we have which tell us to get rid of the habit or an action, it is difficult to do away with.

Our difficulties reside within us because of something called the comfort zone. The comfort zone means we keep doing what we are doing not because we think it is the best thing for us or even because we like it; we keep doing those things which we have done because they have become a habit. It is easier to do them then to go out and try something new.

What I’m trying to explain is that within each of us we have these dynamic forces at work that play on our mind. These forces tell us it’s better to keep doing what we are doing than to explore some unknown which we are not totally sure about. To actually make a change, the desire for change must overcome the desire to stay within the comfort zone.

Sometimes we need some outside forces to weigh in and help us with what we desire to accomplish. Husbands, wives, significant others, mentors, parents, siblings, and friends sometimes play the role of this outside force. The closer someone is to you, the more power they have to use. This power is not centered in them,  it is centered in you because you care about what they think.

Quite often people with concerns do not wish to share with those they truly care for or have emotional ties to. This is where a life coach can step in and help. The life coach is not a clinical counselor, is not there to dispense medications, and is not there for the sole purpose of making you happy. The life coach is there to help you understand what your concern is, help you explore it, and through asking questions, helping you find the answers that are right for you.  

I can tell you this because I am a life coach. I help people who have fallen into holes within their life. I hate to see anyone stuck in such a state, and when I find them, I tend to jump in and help them. The stuck person thinks I’m crazy. I just smile and assure them that I have been here before, and I know the way out.

In our darkest and most troubling hours, there is always someone ready to help. All you need do is reach out to those around you and ask.

Thank you for being with me today. I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

Author: Mike Balof

A retired Air Force Master Sergeant, Mike used to lay in bed at night and worry about what would happen if his plant closed or found himself without a job. One day his plant closed. Rather than panic and hysteria (OK, maybe a little) Mike found himself carried away on the adventure of his life. Mike started with the best job he ever had working at Home Depot. He spent 8 years working with job seekers at a local workforce center, helping them to find employment. He then started his own company developing courses, writing books and urging others to follow their own paths into the future. Mike holds a Master of Arts in Adult Education and Training and a Bachelor of Business Management, earned through the University of Phoenix and an AAS degree in Electronics Systems Technology from the Community College of the Air Force. Mike is a member of the Delta Mu Delta Business Honor Society. View all posts by Mike Balof