We want to think that we can take care of ourselves and help ourselves when we get into a pinch. Everyone wants to look as though they are in control. And, sometimes, we can put on false airs to pretend everything is okay.
Pretending everything is okay, though, doesn’t help as things start to stack up against us. As problems and worries stack up, we have tunnel vision and lose sight of the complete picture, especially solutions. It’s hard to see anything except for the problems.
It is the best time to have someone else in our corner to turn to for help. Working with someone else is often essential because we see in a nearsighted fashion, often being able to identify problems and not able to tell whether they are even real or not. With someone else by our side, they may be able to look a little farther afield, and they are much more likely to see in a 360-degree range. They could help us decipher the real problems and even help us find ways to overcome them.
It is better to have someone that we talk to on a recurring basis who knows us. This person could be an accountability partner, a mentor, or a life coach. If we only show up and talk to someone when we’ve got a problem and are worried or scared, it is much harder for them to help because they don’t know the whole person we are.
Even having a life coach and spending a few dollars occasionally to meet and talk is well worth the money. Just by talking to someone else, you can often hear what works and what does not. Discussing concerns and problems has a magical way of reducing stress and worry on us. And by thinking things through, we could probably even save more than what the coaching costs just by discussing something in advance and having someone else help you find solutions.
I have come to learn that having a coach, a mentor, or someone else who works with and is honest with me is an excellent idea.
What would you work on with a coach?