Speak Out

I used to be afraid to get up in front of others and speak. I always thought I was under-qualified, hard to understand, and not very interesting. What I found out was I needed a better perspective plus less stress and anxiety in my life. This is what I learned.

One of the biggest inhibitors to good communication is stress and anxiety. These two demons rob us of clear thinking and good communication abilities.  If you talk to a group of people, you need to know that they are there to listen to you.  Unless you are putting them in restraints, they want to be there. If you have restrained them, I would suggest not doing that.

Anxiety often comes from a feeling of being unprepared or the feeling of not having expertise.  If you are lecturing to Nobel Laureates in their knowledge field, do not worry. Turn the lecture into a shared event and ask their thoughts during the speech. If you are talking to people you are trying to influence or train, teach them what you know and do not embellish.

If someone wants to share, remember a win-win is better than a win-lose any day.  You also need to prep both mind and body.  Take care of yourself.  Remember to breathe.  And do not imagine everyone in their underwear. It is distracting.

If you would like to know more, there is a great class coming up on March third on Meetup.  I will give you more details in the days to come.

Thank you for being with me today. I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

Are You Ready For A New Job

During the 2008 and 2009 recession, we learned how fast good skills can be lost and how devastating that loss is when finding new employment. If you are looking to rejoin the gainfully employed ranks, we have a set of great tools to help you win the day.

During the Great Recession and its recovery, companies rehiring for new endeavors ended up passing over most people who had not worked for more than six months. They did this with good reason based on what they had learned early on in the hiring process. This is a lesson that I never forgot, and now I am hoping to save you from experiencing it.

My colleague and I are working on new training to help those in lockdown during the pandemic. We can help you to strengthen and regain some of those valuable skills that may now be rusty or no longer as sharp as they once were. For now, I can promise you this will well be

Can I guarantee you a job as soon as you take this class? No.  I can tell you that this class will set you on a much better road to earning the job you want.

Please keep your eyes open for a new class on Meetup, expecting to start on March 3rd. We promise you good information, actionable ideas, exercises to drive home our thoughts and ideas, and a fun and enjoyable learning way.

Thank you for being with me today.  I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

Time to Get Up

Have you ever seen that sometimes our lives don’t go the way we think they will? Sometimes our lives look to be scattered pieces just thrown around on the floor, on the furniture, and sometimes on the walls. We all see this from time to time, and that is OK. Because it doesn’t have to stay that way. We can do something about it. After all, we are the only ones able to do so. It is our life.

There is a song dating back to the earlier half of the 20th century that I always remember when I have to do this. It’s called Pick Yourself Up, and the lyrics go:

‘Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again.’

I often find myself picking up in piling various parts of my life. This usually happens when I have tried to do something, and for one reason or another, It fell apart. Even though that is not fun, it does happen. And when it happens, we need to address it.

Have you ever had a journey in your life that fell apart?  If so, what did you do to pick up the pieces and try again?  If not, do you have a game plan that helps you see problems before they happen, and how would you handle issues that do appear?

If you have faced problems like this, sharing will help everyone.  Please feel welcome to use this blog as a platform to share in the comments.  If we work together, we all benefit.

Thank you for being with me today. I hope to be with you again soon.

Good Vibes

I like to help people. Quite often, when I was in the service, our squadron or group would help out with a charity in the local community. I am lucky enough to have helped at the Special Olympics, worked with Boy Scouts, worked with the Cub Scouts, ran united way type projects within my shops, and had several other great chances to help. 

This is why I believe I became a teacher and a trainer. I love to help people. There is a point at which somebody starts to get the idea, then you can see the light from inside their head just make their whole face shine with the happiness of learning something new. You think I’m kidding, but you can see that happen, and it is one of the greatest feelings in the world.

My goal, usually, is to leave the world a little bit better than I found it. I believe down inside each of us, we have those feelings. We need to survive. We need to take care of our own. And yet, there is a driving desire to also do well for others.

Do you ever get feelings like this? What is one small thing you could do for someone today that would make a difference in their lives? What kind of a sense do you think you would find afterward?  Think about it, and if you would like, please share.

Thank you for being with me today. I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

Are You Getting There

Ever wonder why some folks get ahead and others do not? They have learned one simple rule. Believe in yourself and do your work. Also, they have figured out they must do their job and not someone else’s.  This sounds like lip service, and yet it is the basis of a great truth.

If you cannot believe in yourself, who will? You probably know yourself better than anyone else would. You are the one who can honestly stand up for yourself and make your case. Only you know your true intentions, and it’s up to you to forgive yourself when you don’t hit the mark. Kindness is a beautiful asset, and if you’re going to be kind, start with yourself.

There are plenty of people out there who will not give you the benefit of the doubt. Some people will be cantankerous and downright mean about things.  And some others will be very kind and understanding. Your question for today is, how are you going to handle the person in the mirror.

You should make that person in the mirror accountable and expect the best from them. You should also understand that not every well-meaning adventure goes as smoothly as it should. Quite often, we have to remember that no good deed ever goes unpunished. You can expect from anyone only their best. Why would you ask more of yourself?

Do your best. Give yourself a break when needed. And remember, there is always tomorrow.

Thank you for being with me today. I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

Are You Ready

I remember when I worked with job seekers. It was called the great recession, and there were no jobs to speak. I always seem to be able to find something. Something that someone could do until the economy improved. It might be working in a department store, running a cash register at the local fast-food place, or maybe even helping with some sales type. The point is, if you look hard enough, there is always a job out there.

Unfortunately, my most challenging work often met with thank you very much, but ‘please don’t look too hard for me right now; I still have 13 weeks left of unemployment.’ I believe that if you’re not going to take this seriously, please don’t waste my time. In the grand scheme of things, 13 weeks go in the blink of an eye. The whole idea of unemployment is to give someone temporary assistance until they can find their next employment.

Many people think that once the COVID subsides, everyone will be hiring again. History has proven this not to be the case. Owners and operators will not employ new workers until they absolutely cannot do without the help.

when a job is in front of you, or is that the time you start to prepare?  History proves time, and again that real victories go to those who plan and are ready when opportunity strikes.

Thank you for being with me today. I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

Try This

Do you know why Mondays are so important? Because if there are no Mondays, we don’t get any Fridays. I know it’s a bad joke, please hang with me though I’m trying to prove something.

When we’re at home every day, we begin to forget which days are which. All the days seem to blend. Without some real care taken, we are unsure if it’s Saturday night or sometime on Wednesday. In these days of streaming and binge-watching, it gets even more problematic.

I have a suggestion I would like to offer to you, though, one that is easy enough to do and hopefully will not drive you up the wall. I promise no yoga in front of the couch and no starvation diet.

Look around and see what bugs your moment. It could be a glass on the counter, a coat not hung up, or it may be that the trash has to go out. Go ahead and take care of that one thing. Wash the glass or at least put it in the dishwasher, or hang up your coat, or take the trash to wherever it should go. When you finish doing the one task, write it down in a notebook or on a piece of paper. Be sure to note what you did and keep it. Feel better? You will.

That’s a go ahead and go on with your day. When you see the next thing that bugs you, take care of that one thing, and write it down. You don’t have to feel guilty, and you don’t have to feel pushed into cleaning absolutely everything in sight. Do what bugs you, and that problem is gone. At least for now.

The fact that you write down the things you do, as minor as they might be, is a reminder that you are taking care of business. You have done something to make the overall decore one thing better. When you do the second thing, please write it down. You now have two things better. You could astonish yourself with how much you have done by the end of the week.

Will this work every week? Does it work all the time? I am not sure. You will have to try it and see.

Thanks for being with me today. I hope to be with you again soon.


A fine artist starts with subtleties, soft backgrounds, and sweeping vistas of ideas that he or she builds. The Strata of the painting slowly build and link. Thus, understanding with enlightenment is available to be seen and understood in the eyes of the beholder.

When a good life coach works with a client, they rarely jump in trying to shock or upend a client on the first meeting.  Especially a new client. The coach needs to start off talking with a client to understand where the client is. The coach needs to know what is going on in a client’s life. The most important thoughts for the session may be things the client does not consider especially relative.  A client’s ideas may be false assumptions and pretend barriers, which the client is taking for truth.

The coach needs to help each client paint their verbal picture to look at it and understand what comes from where and what is and is not valid. It is hard for us to look at her painting by ourselves and understand what is and is not the truth. It usually happens because it is our picture, and we’re standing too close to it. A good coach can stand with you, help you back up a little, and maybe see a better aspect of the panoramic when you were only looking at one small part.

The coaches who can do this are the ones who have worked at it for years. The ones who do the best are worth their weight in g…. Not really, yet at least a reasonable hourly rate. A good coach is worth it. A good coach helps you understand in a much shorter time what only you can do to fix real problems and ignore all of the false ones.

If you’re looking to solve a problem, look for a good life coach.

Thank you for being with me today. I hope to be with you again tomorrow.

Have You Sat Down and Figured It Out

Have you sat down and figured out where you’re going? If you have not, that is your first step. If you don’t know where you’re going, you’re just wandering in circles.

Have you looked where you want to, and the milestones needed to get there? If you have none, you are missing the points that will assure your direction and timing. If we’re going to go somewhere, we should do so without going astray and not wasting what precious little time we have.

Have we decided who is going with us on this journey? It would be terrible to get where you want to be and find out you forgot to bring Friends and family along. You need to make plans. And, plans call for decisions.

Have you done your due diligence? Is your destination what other people tell you it should be? Is your goal what you assume? Is your destination something that you have surveyed and planned out? I have seen too many people get to the destination they desired, only to find out it wasn’t what they desired at all. Have you done your homework?

If you have done all this and mapped it out, so it’s easy to follow? If you have, that is great. I wish you luck, and I hope to see you along the trail. If you have not done this yet and made your map, why? We all know the time waits for no one.

If you need help in accomplishing these tasks, please contact me. Where you are going; I have been. No one can do it for you. I have trained in many areas to help you. Please contact me if I can be of service.

Mike Balof, Director


425 N. Tejon St.

Colorado Springs, CO 80903


It Is All in The Mind

Work is what we make of it. Work can be drudgery. And work can actually be something that refreshes both the soul and the body. Work is like anything else; it’s what we make of it. Results are determined not by the Chore and not by the length; outcomes are determined by the worker’s mind.

Two people get off the plane in a remote area of the world. They are there to work for a year. The first person who gets off the Jet looks around as he walks down the steps and says, “This place stinks. This is going to be the most awful year of my life.”

 The person behind him gets off the plane and says, “This is fantastic. The party starts here.”

When the two people leave their work behind at the end of the year and get on the plane to fly home, a magical thing happens. It turns out they both were right.

This really happened. It happens more often than we think. Only we can control our destiny. Only we can control our thoughts and our actions. If you don’t like where you are or what you are doing, don’t talk to everybody around you. Start by talking to the person in the mirror.

Trying to control your own thoughts and your own beliefs may seem like a large undertaking. Yet, it’s like everything else; you need to practice something to build strength in it. You can find good and depravity in anything. If you want to live well, find the good. The less you practice this, the harder it will be. First, I can assure you the ability is within each and every one of us.  

If you need help, there is a lot of good free help or nearly free help to be had these days. Check on Meetup, Eventbrite, Thinkific, Udemy, and other platforms that offer classes. And if you can’t find anything, write me at  I will give you a free 90-minute session to help get you started. Please consider this offer. I would be happy to help.

Thank you for being with me today. I hope to be with you again tomorrow.